原諒那些傷害我們的人吧！

為什麼他們會傷害我們？

僅僅是因為他們不滿足、 不開心，才會傷害我們

一旦他們好像佛陀和阿羅漢那樣完全地滿足和快樂

他們根本就不會想要再從這個世界中取得些什麼，也自然不會惡意傷害任何人

因此應該可憐他們

Let’s forgive those who have harmed us!

Why do they hurt us?

Simply because they are discontent and unhappy, end up hurting others.

Once they are completely content and happy, like the Buddha and the Arahants, 

they will no longer desire to take anything from this world, and naturally, they won’t maliciously harm anyone. 

Therefore, we should feel compassion for them.

小器的方丈不是一般的方丈😂

因為Ajahn Golf 說，：‘出家人的正常素質，就是會原諒的。因為如果不原諒的話，就沒了出家的心。’

Monastic Dean who is narrow-minded is not ordinary monastic dean😂

Because Ajahn Golf once said:' The normal quality of a monk, is willing to forgive. If he doesn't forgive, he has lost his mind of a monk.' 

《如何培養更多的慈悲與寬恕》

信徒：您能給我們一些如何在內心培養更多慈悲與寬恕的建議嗎？

阿姜蘇差特：你必須讓自己感到快樂。一旦你快樂，你就不需要任何人的東西。這樣你就能對每個人友善並充滿慈悲。但如果你內心不快樂，你就會向他人尋求快樂。如果得不到快樂，反而遭遇他人的瘋狂，就會生氣。因此，試著禪修，讓你的心靜下來，平靜，保持中捨的心態。你擁有的中捨越多，滿足感就越強。一旦你有了滿足感，就不需要或期望任何人的東西。

所以一切都回到我們自己身上，我們必須通過佛法來提升自己，讓自己變得平靜、快樂。一旦你變得平靜、快樂，你就不需要任何人的東西，也不會期望任何人的東西，無論別人對你怎樣，你都能接受他們。你可以把他們看作不同類型的食物。人就像水果，有的是芒果，有的是香蕉，有的是蘋果；你無法改變他們。你所要做的就是接受他們。他們就是他們。你所要做的就是與他們相處。

我總是說，秘訣在於正念。如果你有正念，你可以使自己的心靜下來，保持中捨的心態。然後，如果你有中捨的心態，你將會對他人的成功充滿慈愛、慈悲和喜悅。

所以，試著提升自己，不要試圖改變他人。這幾乎是不可能的。改變自己。一旦你改變了自己，你就能接受任何事情。

<<How to generate more compassion and forgiveness>>

Devotee: could you give some advice of how to generate more compassion and forgiveness within ourselves?

Ajahn Suchart: You have to happy in yourself. Once you are happy, you don't need anything from anybody. You can then be nice and can be compassionate to everybody. But if you are unhappy within yourself, then you will seek happiness from any people. If you don't get happiness , you get madness from other people, then you get angry. So try to develop a lot of meditation, to get your mind to become calm, peaceful and have equanimity. The more equanimity you have, the more contentment you have. When you have contentment, you don't need or expect anything from anybody.

So it always come back to ourselves, we have to develop ourselves with Dhamma, teaching of the Buddha, to become calm, peaceful and happy. Once you become calm, peaceful and happy, you don't need anything from anybody, you don't expect anything from anybody, you can take anything from anybody. They can bully you or be nice to you , whatever. You look at them like looking at different types of food. People are like fruits, some are mangoes, some are bananas,  some are apples; you can't change them. All you have to do is to accept them. They are what they are. All you have to do is to deal with them

I always say, the secret is mindfulness. If you have mindfulness, you can make your mind calm and have equanimity. Then if you have equanimity, you will have loving kindness and compassion  and sympathetic joy towards other people’s success

So try to develop yourself, don’t try to change other people. It is almost impossible. Change yourself. Once you change yourself, you can take anything

《How to cope with those who hurt us?》

Devotee： somebody was asking about how to deal with people in workplace who are trying to undermine him or so on. So I am trying to learn from the Lord Buddha, who face Devadatta...

Ajahn Suchart: The story is clear already. He forgave Devadatta, he didn't react or hurt Devadatta. The consequence of Devadatta's bad kamma takes effect. So remain calm, remain knowing, not reacting, this is how the Buddha did. Just merely know. What you see, just merely see; what you hear, just merely hear; don't react to what you see and what you hear 

《如何應對那些傷害我們的人？》

信徒：有人問到如何處理工作場所中試圖傷害他的人。我想從佛陀的故事中學習，特別是他面對提婆達多的態度……

阿姜蘇差特：這個故事已經很清楚了。他原諒了提婆達多，沒有反應或傷害提婆達多。提婆達多的不善業果報會生效。因此，要保持冷靜，保持覺知，而不是反應，這就是佛陀所做的。只是單純地知道。你看到的，就只是看到；你聽到的，就只是聽到；不要對你看到的和聽到的做出反應。