大家知道為什麼自己惹上是非嗎？

會惹上是非有數之不盡的原因。但其中之一，就是我們想做大佬

這種想做老大的慾望，實際上是貪權和我慢。

例如曾聽過有醫生投訴，自己的上司啊，只懂指指點點做指揮，態度惡劣，丟筆丟文件夾。

一旦一個人感受到他高我低、 被指揮的感覺，就會感到憤憤不平，然後就會到處說是非和抱怨。

世間尚且如此，何況來到宗教這裡？

每個人都有自尊心，都有這個我慢在。一旦感到不被尊重，都會不高興的。

就算我們是前輩，我們以為叫人做事就可以沒有‘謝謝’，沒有‘感激’？

我們以為自己可以像老大那樣隨意指揮任何人？

事實上，較年輕的後輩表面順從，在背後就瘋狂數說我們不是：這個老屎忽；這個人點我做事；這個人自己都可以做啦，為什麼不自己做？......

當我們看見一個人指揮人指揮得很爽很威；千萬不要相信表象，然後也想好像他那樣

實際上他在不斷累積怨氣和敵人

就算我們身居高位，也不要忘記尊重和禮貌；不要有任何私心，要仿效佛陀阿羅漢的慈悲和無私。

這樣已經可以避過許多危險和是非了...

"Do You Know Why You Get Into Trouble?"

Do you know why we end up entangled in conflicts and gossips?

There are countless reasons, but one of the biggest is the desire to be the "boss."

This craving for authority is actually a mix of greed for power and conceit (māna).

For example, there was once a person complained that his  supervisor just barks orders, throws pens and folders around, and acts arrogantly.

When someone feels "they’re above me, and I’m just being bossed around," resentment builds—leading to gossip and complaints.

If this happens in the secular world, imagine how much worse it gets in religious circles!

Everyone has ego. If they feel disrespected, they’ll be unhappy.

Even if we’re seniors, do we think we can order people around without a 'thank you' or any gratitude?

Do we believe we can act like a tyrant, commanding others however we please?

In reality, youngsters may pretend to obey—but behind our backs, they’re cursing us:

"This old fossil… Why doesn’t he do it himself instead of ordering me around?"

When you see someone enjoying their 'authority,' don’t be fooled by appearances.

That person is accumulating resentment and enemies with every order.

Even if we hold a high position, never forget respect and courtesy; also remember to be free from selfish motives, we should emulate the compassion and selflessness of the Buddha and Arahants.

This alone can help us avoid countless dangers and gossips.

"Do You Know Why You Get Into Trouble?"

Do you know why we end up entangled in conflicts and gossips?

There are countless reasons, but one of the biggest is the desire to be the "boss."

This craving for authority is actually a mix of greed for power and conceit (māna).

For example, there was once a person complained that his  supervisor just barks orders, throws pens and folders around, and acts arrogantly.

When someone feels "they’re above me, and I’m just being bossed around," resentment builds—leading to gossip and complaints.

If this happens in the secular world, imagine how much worse it gets in religious circles!

Everyone has ego. If they feel disrespected, they’ll be unhappy.

Even if we’re seniors, do we think we can order people around without a 'thank you' or any gratitude?

Do we believe we can act like a tyrant, commanding others however we please?

In reality, youngsters may pretend to obey—but behind our backs, they’re cursing us:

"This old fossil… Why doesn’t he do it himself instead of ordering me around?"

When you see someone enjoying their 'authority,' don’t be fooled by appearances.

That person is accumulating resentment and enemies with every order.

Even if we hold a high position, never forget respect and courtesy; also remember to be free from selfish motives, we should emulate the compassion and selflessness of the Buddha and Arahants.

This alone can help us avoid countless dangers and gossips.

如果我們想做老大，就不要想做老大😂

為什麼？假如我們想做老大，其實就是傲慢心在作崇：想要比你們都好，想要踩著你們，想要你們都做我的狗、 做我的手下

大家會以這樣的人為領袖嗎？

相反，假如我們沒有想做老大的慾望

僅僅只是謙遜付出，尊重所有人，為所有人帶來利益和好處

如此將能贏得所有人的尊重和愛戴

雖然我們沒有想過要做老大，但他們仍會叫我們做老大.... 

If We Want to Be the Leader, We Shouldn't Want to Be the Leader 😂

Why? If we want to be the leader, it actually stems from conceit: wanting to be better than everyone else, wanting to step on others, wanting everyone to be our subordinates or followers, wanting everyone to be our dogs

Would people regard such a person as a leader?

On the contrary, if we have no desire to be the leader and simply act with humility, respecting everyone and bringing benefits to all, we can gain everyone's respect and admiration.

Even if we never aspired to be the leader, they will still call us the leader...

有一個故事是這樣的：

有一個人一去到朋友家中，就開始發瘋了。他指令他的朋友--這個應該丟掉，那個應該丟掉。 然後開雪櫃評論雪櫃裡的食物，嚇到他的朋友不知所措。

下次都不想再邀請他的朋友來到自己的家裡了。

房子不是自己的，而是朋友的，但他卻支配了整間房子

有許多在家居士的弊病也是這樣。

出家師父並不屬於任何居士的，但在家人卻喜歡把出家師父當成了是‘我的’ ，當成是自己的狗、 自己的資產，自己當了師父的主人。

師父每一步、 每一個行為都要規管，不再是謙遜地提供資訊和建議了，而是硬性的規管。

居士們會覺得自己是為師父好。實際上，這是以愛包裝的貪權、 貪求控制；對師父毫無尊重。

出家師父不是小朋友了，他們有自己的看法的。他們的決定和人生是屬於他們自己的。

當我們試圖以愛之名來規管，就會好像上面那個故事那樣，進了師父的‘屋子’，搗亂一番、 支配一番.....

There is a story like this:
One day, a man went to a friend's house and started acting crazy. He instructed his friend—this should be thrown away, that should be discarded. Then he opened the fridge and commented on the food inside, leaving his friend bewildered. After that, the friend didn’t want to invite him over again.
The house didn't belong to him; it was his friend's, yet he tried to dominate the entire place.

Many issues with lay practitioners are similar. 

Monastics do not belong to any layperson, but laypeople often treat them as “mine,” as their own dog or property, acting as if they are the masters of the monastics.

Every step and action of the monk must be regulated; it is no longer about humbly providing information and suggestions, but about regulating.

Laypeople may feel they are doing this for the monk's benefit. In reality, this is greed for power and control wrapped in 'love', showing no respect for monks.
Monastics are not children; they have their own views. Their decisions and lives belong to them.
When we try to regulate in the name of love, it resembles the story above, entering the monks' “house,” causing chaos and trying to dominate...

假如我們想操控、 控制別人，想要別人一定要跟我們的話

這其實是厚顏無恥的表現

因為對別人0尊重，也是貪權的表現

這時我們問自己幾個問題：’我是想他做我的狗嗎？ 是想他跪我嗎？ 是想他向我叩頭嗎？ 是想他舔我嗎？‘

答案是：yes😂

根本就沒有羞恥之心，只是想當老大

誰人以這樣的方式認識和識破自己的煩惱，就能從貪權中鬆脫出來

If we want to manipulate and control others, wanting them to follow our every word,
this is actually an expression of shamelessness,
because it shows zero respect for others and is a manifestation of craving for power.

At this point, we should ask ourselves a few questions: 'Do I want him to be my dog? Do I want him to kneel to me? Do I want him to bow down to me? Do I want him to lick me?'
The answer is: yes 😂

There is no sense of shame; we just want to be the boss.
 

Anyone who recognizes and sees through their own defilements in this way can break free from the craving for power.

曾經見過一個雇主，以我高你低的口吻來指令他的傭人

於是他的傭人雖是傭人，但還是以帶著刺的語氣諷刺：‘Yes SIR , SIR😒'

即使對方是我們的傭人也好，下屬也好，奴隸也好；他們依然是人

如果是人，必然有其自尊心，也就是我慢。

如果我們對他們不尊重，他們自然不會喜歡的

如果他們做工做得不開心，早晚會辭職不做的

如果我們的態度不改變，遲早我們的下屬也會走光，然後再也請不到別人替我們做事了

平靜地離去是最好的結果，但最怕他們會懷恨在心

例如把公司的機密流出去，轉投我們的競爭對手，幫我們的競爭對手對付我們

也聽過有傭人甚至會對雇主一家下那些巫術蠱毒等等

噢～所以對任何人尊重以待是最安全的做法

事實上，我們請回來的員工或者傭人，他們各自有各自的盤算

不然為什麼要來做我們的下屬被我們管？不然為什麼要那麼辛苦工作？

他們最想要的就是快樂。 透過什麼而獲得快樂呢？可能是工資、 完成工作的滿足感、 名譽、 地位、好的工作和生活平衡.....

每個人的側重點都不同，但所有人終究都想得到快樂，包括我們自己也是，不是嗎？

如果我們對他們不尊重，他們會感到被輕視，不會高興的

但當我們把心態一轉--我不是他們的老大，我們只是有相同目標的共同奮鬥者，我只是他們的協調者

誒～那麼整件事便變得很好看了

我們請來的員工只是一起完成目標的協作者而已

當這樣想時，和他們共處、 甚至是給予指令時就不會有我高你低的姿態，而是抱持尊重的態度

那麼任誰都喜歡替我們工作的

請來的傭人也會更賣力地照顧我們的家庭

整個家庭、 團體和公司就會邁向繁榮

There was once an employer giving orders to their servant in a condescending tone.

In response, the servant, though being a servant, sarcastically replied, "Yes SIR, SIR.😒"

Even if the other person is our servant, subordinate, or even a slave, they are still human. As humans, they naturally have their self-esteem, which is a form of conceit.

If we do not respect them, they will naturally dislike it. 

If they are unhappy with their work, they will eventually resign. 

If our attitude doesn’t change, sooner or later our subordinates will leave, and we won’t be able to find others to do the work for us.

A calm departure is the best outcome, but what we fear most is that they might harbor resentment. 

For example, they could leak company secrets to our competitors, helping them against us.

It is heard of that servants using black magic against their employers.

Oh—so treating everyone with respect is the safest approach.

In fact, the employees or servants we hire each have their own needs. 

Otherwise, why would they choose to work under us? Why would they work so hard? 

What they want most is happiness. 

How do they attain happiness? It could be through salary, the satisfaction of completing tasks, reputation, status, or a good work-life balance. 

Everyone has different priorities, but ultimately, everyone seeks happiness—including ourselves, right?

If we disrespect them, they will feel belittled and unhappy. 

However, when we shift our mindset to see ourselves not as their boss but as co-fighters with a common goal, merely as their coordinator, then everything changes for the better.

The employees we hire are simply collaborators in achieving our goals. 

When we think this way, interacting with them—even giving instructions—won’t carry an air of superiority, but rather a respectful attitude. 

Then anyone would enjoy working for us. 

The servants will also take better care of our households. 

The entire family, team, and company will then bound to thrive.

寺廟是很容易滋長煩惱的地方

也是許多人權力鬥爭和政治鬥爭的地方

為什麼會這樣呢？ 因為愚蠢

就如媳婦嫁入奶奶家中，一開始會很有慚愧之心，對奶奶和家人很恭敬；但一旦待在家中時間長了，就失去了羞恥之心，甚至會指令奶奶做事

一般人進到寺廟中也是一樣，一開始會很有慚愧之心，對廟裡的人和師父很恭敬；但一旦來廟的時間長了，就失去了羞恥之心，甚至會指令師父做事

他們把寺廟當成是‘我的’ 。但寺廟何來屬於任何人的呢？

修行的僧侶，不會把世間的一切當成是‘我’ 或‘我的’ ，更何況是自己在住的寺院？ 

但反倒是在家人認為寺院是他們的，變成了寺院的主人。

日子一長，就覺得自己是老大了

開始想要掌控寺院裡的一切，指令別人，滿足自己的權力慾

誰不順著自己的意思做事，就會生氣起情緒

如果在世俗意義來說，要談論誰是寺院真正的擁有人，那是住持啊。

如果我們未經住持授權而覺得自己有權力去管理寺院的事務，那就是奪權，奪了住持的權，做了他的老大。

但僧侶又有什麼辦法呢？自己沒有想控制在家人的權力慾。而在家人那麼惡，那麼有勢力，一會兒教誡他們，他們會怎樣？所以都沒有什麼辦法

一旦寺廟有著這樣的風氣，就會讓想要認識佛教的人失去信心。 他們原本以為佛教是去除貪嗔癡、 去除自私心的宗教；但來到寺院卻發現這裡竟然是滋長貪嗔癡的地方。然後就會頭都不回地走人....

假如佛法進入了人心，就不會發生這樣的問題：寺院不屬於任何人，這個世界中沒有‘我’和‘我的’ ---問題就在此解決。

這是世界各地存在在寺廟中的問題，在泰國尤為嚴重。

Temples are places where defilements can easily breed. 

They are also sites for many power struggles and political conflicts.

Why is this the case? Because of ignorance. 

Just like a daughter-in-law who marries into her husband's family, at first she feels a sense of shame and shows respect to her mother-in-law and family. But once she stays there for a while, she loses that sense of shame and may even start to order her grandmother around.

Similarly, when ordinary people enter a temple, they initially feel a sense of shame and show respect to the people and the monks there. However, after spending a long time in the temple, they lose that sense of shame and may start to give orders to even monks.

They treat the temple as "mine." But how can a temple belong to anyone? Monks who practice do not consider everything in the world as "I" or "mine," let alone the temple where they reside. Yet laypeople often think of the temple as theirs, becoming the owners of the temple. Over time, they may begin to feel like the boss, wanting to control everything in the temple, giving orders to others to satisfy their desire for power. Anyone who does not comply with their wishes will provoke their anger.

In worldly terms, if we were to discuss who the true owner of the temple is, it would be the abbot. If we feel entitled to manage the affairs of the temple without the abbot's authorization, that is usurping power—taking the rights of the abbot and acting as his boss.

But what can the monks do? They do not wish to control the laypeople, they do not have desire for power. And when the laypeople are so malicious and powerful, what happens if they try to admonish them? There’s not much they can do.

Once a temple develops this kind of atmosphere, it can cause those who wish to learn about Buddhism to lose faith. They originally thought Buddhism was a religion that eliminates greed, hatred, and ignorance, only to find that the temple fosters these very defilements. They may then leave without looking back...

If the Dhamma enters people's hearts, such problems would disappear: the temple does not belong to anyone, and in this world, there is no "I" or "mine"—the problem is thus resolved.

This issue exists in temples around the world, and it is particularly severe in Thailand.

這款遊戲以前很heat ，叫做街霸

有街霸，同樣都有家霸😂 家霸就是家中貪權的老大

有家霸，同樣都有學校霸😂 學校霸就是學校中貪權的老大

有學校霸，同樣都有工場霸😂 工場霸就是工場中貪權的老大

有工場霸，同樣都有廟霸😂 廟霸就是寺廟中貪權的老大

有廟霸，同樣都有社會霸😂 社會霸就是社會中貪權的老大

有社會霸，同樣都有世界霸😂 世界霸就是全世界人人都認識的貪權老大

貪權就是貪求控制

我們誰人是被人取笑的小霸王？

聽過有一間醫院發生了這樣一件趣事

有一位退休了的CEO 去做義工

然而，他卻情緒非常低落

負責義工的護士得知，原來他以前的工作就當CEO ，身居高位，可以指令別人做事。但現在退休了，他完全失去了這些權力，所以感到非常沮喪。

負責的護士為了安撫他，讓他開心；就讓他擔當義工團體的老大

大家覺得怎樣？😂

我們不開心，都只是因為內心的自私心

就如佛陀在四聖諦中說，苦的原因就是我們內心的渴愛

這位CEO 之所以痛苦，就是因為貪求權力

這其實絕對是不好看的。對自己的自私心卻沒有絲毫的羞恥之心

當我們痛苦的時候，我們應當問問自己：‘我們在貪求些什麼？執著些什麼？ 自私些什麼？’

然後把根源去除

那就沒有人可以翻我們白眼了

There is an interesting incident that happened at a hospital. 

A retired CEO went to volunteer, but he was very depressed. 

The nurse in charge of the volunteers learned that he used to be a CEO, a high-ranking position where he could command others. 

Now that he is retired, he has completely lost that power, which made him feel very frustrated.

To comfort him and make him happy, the nurse made him the leader of the volunteer group. What do you think about that? 😂

Our unhappiness actually stems from our selfishness. 

As the Buddha said in the Four Noble Truths, the cause of suffering is our craving. 

The CEO's pain comes from his desire for power. This is actually quite unappealing, showing a complete lack of shame for his own selfishness.

When we are suffering, we should ask ourselves: "What are we craving? What are we attached to? What are we being selfish about?" Then we can remove the root cause, and no one can roll their eyes at us.

貪權其中一個表現為‘有破壞無建設’

有許多人擁有權力，但卻執著權力

當心被貪婪所蒙蔽，將不會知道自己和他人的利益（AN1.45)

他們只會利用自己的權力去反對、 去破壞別人具建設性的想法

僅僅只是為了表現自己的權力有多強

沒有絲毫為大局著想

其他人一見到這樣的情形只會感到厭惡、 失去對他們的尊重

所以這是愚蠢的表現

Greed for power is often manifested as "destruction without construction." 

Many people hold power but become attached to it. 

When the mind is clouded by greed, they fail to recognize their own interests and those of others (AN1.45). 

They only use their power to oppose and destroy others' constructive ideas, merely to showcase how strong their power is, without any consideration for the bigger picture.

When others witness such behavior, they feel disgusted and lose respect for them. This is a manifestation of foolishness.

We  suffer and feel troubled , sometimes because we want to be the ultimate boss of the universe 😂

In short, it’s an extreme desire for power.

Power is the ability  to control. If we want people to do this or that but feel heavy inside, that’s greed for power.

When others don’t follow our wishes and we get angry, that’s also greed for power.

Generally, everyone has some greed for power, such as wanting to control family members, partners, or friends—selfishly wanting them to do this and not that. This essentially means wanting to be their boss.

When there’s such a desire for power, problems can arise, like arguments and conflicts, but these are usually limited to a small scope. However, when it goes beyond this scope, the problems become significant.

It’s simple: in a group, everyone has the same status; but sometimes we forget our identity and start commanding others to do things, essentially becoming their boss.

Ajahn Golf also mentioned this issue, such as when we see others donating money. For example, when they build a temple, we might say, “Why not build a hospital?” When they support monks, we might say, “Why not help the poor?” When they donate at a big temple, we might say, “Why not support a small temple?” Ajahn Golf said, “If we always think, doubt, and criticize others like this, we are truly foolish! It’s none of our business; their property is theirs, their faith is theirs, and how they choose to do good deeds is their right.”

Other people’s money becomes our money.

Other people’s right to use their own money turns into our right 😂.

Then we gossip, feel jealous, and destroy, wanting to be the boss, making others do things according to our wishes.

Who wants to be the boss of Elon Musk? 😂 There should be quite a lot!

Then we read the news and become the boss of others, the boss of the world—angry and jealous. “They should do this, they should do that.” It might be a small tribe in Africa that the news is talking about, but we unknowingly become the leaders of that tribe 😂.

Then we look at the sky: “Why aren’t you raining! 😡😡” “Give me sunshine! 😡😡” 😂😂😂 We become the boss of nature too.

This is what we call the ultimate boss of the universe 😂😂 

我們之所以痛苦和煩惱，有很多時候是因為想做宇宙超級終極老大😂

簡而言之， 就是對權力有著無可匹敵的慾望

權力就是控制的力量

如果想要人這樣那樣， 但內心沉重起來， 這就是貪權

當別人不順著自己意思做， 自己生氣；這也是貪權

一般人或多或少都是貪權的， 例如想控制自己的家人、伴侶、朋友--自私地想要他們這樣、不想要他們這樣。 這樣其實就是想做他們的老大。

當有這樣的權力欲，是會產生問題的， 例如吵架、矛盾；但僅僅限於小範圍而已。

然而， 當超出這個範圍， 問題就大了

很簡單， 在團體中，大家都有著同樣的地位； 但有時我們會忘了自己的身份，指令別人、命令別人做事。做了別人的老大

Ajahn Golf 也有提到這樣的問題，就是看到別人捐錢

例如他們蓋寺廟，就說為什麼不蓋醫院？

他們供養僧人，就說為什麼不去幫助窮人？

他們在大寺廟布施，就說為什麼不去小寺廟？

Ajahn Golf 就說：“如果我們總是這樣想，懷疑，批評別人，那我們真的太愚蠢了！這根本不關我們的事，財產是他的，信仰是他的，他想在哪裡、如何做功德，這是他的權利。”

別人的錢， 變成了是我們的錢。

別人使用自己金錢的權利， 變成了我們的權利😂

然後說是非、妒忌、破壞

就是想做人老大， 受自己控制、順著自己的意思做

有誰是想做 Elon Musk 的老大的？😂 應該也有不少

然後看新聞， 又做了別人的老大、全世界的老大----生氣、妒忌。 “應該這樣做、那樣做”

可能新聞在說非洲的一個小部落， 但我們卻不知不覺間做了部落的領袖😂

然後看著天空：“為什麼你不下雨啊!😡😡”

“給我陽光!😡😡”

😂😂😂

也做了大自然的老大

這就是所謂的宇宙超級終極老大😂 

如果我們想做大人物， 是為了可以指令別人、滿足自己的權力欲

噢～ 那就太愚蠢了

隆波間夏曾說:

“讓我們想想佛陀是誰吧

佛陀是 一位 放下 的 人。

耶穌基督 是 誰？ 他 是 一位 放下 的 人。

先知 是 誰？ 他 是一位 放下 的 人。

已故的 泰王 普密蓬 是 誰？ 他 是一位 放下 的 人。

放下 讓 釋迦牟尼佛 成為 了佛陀。”

所有的宗教領袖、大人物， 無不是放下的人

他們去除了自我， 不會覺得自己很厲害、很重要、比人好， 更不會想要自私地指令別人

我們看看耶穌吧。 我們沒有聽過耶穌因為自己是天神之子而飄起來。 耶穌反而謙卑地為門徒洗腳， 服務大眾、利益大眾

佛陀和所有的阿羅漢， 全都根除了自私心。

佛陀雖然極具名望， 但卻竟然說“那耆多，我不要聲望，不要讓聲望到我這裏來！那耆多，聲望使人不易、不能隨心所欲取得出離之樂、遠離之樂、平息之樂、覺悟之樂，我現在容易、隨心所欲取得出離之樂、遠離之樂、平息之樂、覺悟之樂。利益、供養、聲譽是導向污穢之樂、昏昧之樂！”(AN5.30)

根據<<經集>>義註所記載， 佛陀一天只睡大約兩個小時;其他時間都用在禪修和幫助世人。

所有的大人物， 全部都不是從這個世界取得些什麼的， 而是去付出、去幫忙、去關愛。

如果我們想要獲得很大的權力， 能夠發司號令；這樣的願望永遠不能兌現， 因為這只是在滿足自我、自己的自私心。沒有人會欣賞的! 沒有人會信服的!

就算服從， 都只是表面順從， 內裡不爽。

這個世間每個人都是自我中心的。 我們的“自我”， 永遠都不及他們的“自我” 重要。

如果一個人能夠滿足全世界的自我， 那才是最大的人。 

If we want to be a big shot, just for the sake of commanding others and satisfying our desire for power. Oh, that is just too foolish.

Luang Por Ganha once said:

"Let’s think about who the Buddha is. The Buddha is a person who has let go. Who is Jesus Christ? He is a person who has let go. Who is the prophet? He is a person who has let go. The late King Bhumibol of Thailand? He is a person who has let go. Letting go is what made Siddhartha Gautama become the Buddha."

All religious leaders and big figures are people who have let go. They have removed the sense of  self and do not consider themselves important, superior, or better than others, nor do they selfishly want to command others.

Let’s look at Jesus. We have never heard of Jesus becomes self-inflated just  because he is the Son of God. Instead, Jesus humbly washed the feet of his disciples, serving and benefiting the public.

The Buddha and all arahants have completely eradicated selfishness.

Although the Buddha was highly esteemed, he said, " do not let reputation come to me! Fame makes it difficult for one to attain the pleasures of liberation, the pleasures of distancing , the pleasures of tranquility, the pleasures of awakening. I wish to attain the pleasures of liberation, distance, tranquility, and awakening easily and freely. Benefits, offerings, and reputation lead to impure pleasures and ignorant joys!" (AN5.30)

According to the scriptures, the Buddha slept only about two hours a day; the rest of the time was spent on meditation and helping others.

All great figures do not gain something from this world; instead, they give, help, and love.

If we desire to gain great power and issue commands, such wishes will never be fulfilled because they only satisfy the self and our selfishness. No one will appreciate it! No one will be convinced! Even if they obey, it will just be superficial compliance, with inner dissatisfaction.

In this world, everyone is self-centered. Our "self" will never be as important as their "self."

If a person can satisfy the "self" of the entire world, then that is the greatest person. 

"Run," a 2021 film, sparked significant discussion at the time.

Single mother Diane (played by Sarah Paulson) raises her daughter Chloe (played by Kiera Allen), who has been sickly and has mobility issues since childhood.

However, the seemingly loving mother Diane is psychologically twisted and has a strong desire for control. She has been poisoning her daughter to keep her disabled and dependent on her.

When Chloe discovers this, she vows to resist and escape from her mother.

In reality, Diane represents many parents or partners, just in an exaggerated form. We often like to manipulate and control, mistaking it for "love." In truth, this is a manifestation of selfishness and greed for power.

Once this desire for control becomes excessive, it will only bring pressure and anxiety to others, and may even cause them to start distancing themselves from us.

《疑‧媽》這部2021年的電影，在當時引起了熱話

單親媽媽Diane（莎拉寶森飾），獨力養育自小體弱多病兼雙腿不良於行的女兒Chloe（姬拉艾倫飾）。

可是，似是位慈母的Diane原來心理扭曲，控制慾極強的她其實一直向女兒落毒，令對方傷殘而留在自己身邊。

女兒發現後誓死抵抗和逃離母親

其實 Diane 是許多父母或情侶的寫照，只不過是誇大版而已。

我們總喜歡操控和控制，把這當作是‘愛’。

實則這是自私和貪權的表現

一旦這種控制欲過度；只會帶給別人壓力和不安，甚至會開始逃離我們

<<當他人的功德變成我們的罪過>>

"...有誰曾經這樣過嗎？

總喜歡懷疑，干涉，為他人的布施和功德感到困擾？

例如他們蓋寺廟，就說為什麼不蓋醫院？

他們供養僧人，就說為什麼不去幫助窮人？

他們在大寺廟布施，就說為什麼不去小寺廟？

諸如此類...我們有過這樣的經驗嗎？

如果我們總是這樣想，懷疑，批評別人，

那我們真的太愚蠢了！

這根本不關我們的事，

財產是他的，信仰是他的，

他想在哪裡、如何做功德，這是他的權利。

他們要蓋寺廟、佛像、佛堂、佛塔，

或者要蓋學校、醫院，

設立慈善機構，造福大眾，

無論他是供養僧人、幫助窮人或動物，

無論他是供養大寺、小寺、森林寺或鄉村寺，

無論他選擇供養哪位導師，這都是他的自由。

正確的態度是，

我們應該恭敬隨喜讚嘆、隨喜功德，

當我們知道、看見、聽見這些功德，

這樣才能在我們心中生起功德。

即便我們不喜歡某種布施方式，

至少我們應該保持中立，

不要去批評，不要嫉妒，

不要阻礙他人的善行，

因為有時我們甚至做不到他們那樣。

這些不是小事，不要大意，

煩惱會悄悄滲透我們的內心，

非常危險，可能無意中造下惡業而不自知。

這些都值得我們深思......"

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Ajahn Golf 阿贊高爾夫 อาจารย์กอล์ฟ

Phra Ajahn Surawut (Golf) Khemachitto

Wat Pa Anuttaro, Sri Bunruang District,

Nong Bua Lamphu Province, Thailand.

<<When Others' Merit Becomes Our Sin>>

"...Has anyone experienced this?

Like doubting, worrying, and suffering

About others' faith in making merit and offerings?

For example, when they build temples, we ask why not build hospitals?

When they make offerings to monks, we ask why not help the poor?

When they donate to big temples, we ask why not small temples?

Things like these... have we experienced this?

If we think this way, doubt others, or criticize them,

we are truly being foolish!

It’s not our business.

Their wealth is theirs, their faith is theirs,

and where and how they choose to give is their right.

Whether they build temples, Buddha images, halls, or stupas,

Or build schools, hospitals,

Set up charities, benefit the public,

Make offerings to monks, help the poor or animals,

Whether they donate to small temples, big temples, forest temples or village temples,

Or make offerings to any teacher - it's their right.

The correct approach is to cultivate a mind of rejoicing.

When we see, hear, or know about others doing good deeds,

we should feel joy for them,

for this is how we, too, generate merit in our own hearts.

Even if we don’t personally favor a certain act of giving,

at the very least, we should remain neutral.

Do not criticize. Do not be jealous.

Do not obstruct others' merit-making,

because often, we ourselves are not even capable of doing what they do!

These things are not trivial—do not be careless.

Defilements can creep into the hearts of even devoted Buddhists.

It is very dangerous,

for we may unknowingly accumulate bad karma.

So, let us all reflect on this carefully…."

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Ajahn Golf 阿贊高爾夫 อาจารย์กอล์ฟ

Phra Ajahn Surawut (Golf) Khemachitto

Wat Pa Anuttaro, Sri Bunruang District,

Nong Bua Lamphu Province, Thailand.

Most of China's accusations against the U.S. are likely related to interference in their internal affairs, right? 😂

Who is right and who is wrong is not to be discussed here~

But if between countries the reactions are like this, then not to mention ordinary people.

No one likes others to interfere and control their own affairs.

In Ud.19, there is a story about this:

Once, Visakha had business dealings with King Pasenadi, but the agreement did not meet her expectations.

After completing her business, she went to see the Buddha.

The Buddha asked why she arrived at noon, and she shared everything.

Upon knowing this, the Buddha said:

"All control by others is suffering, while  control by themselves is happiness.

They share common troubles; the yoke (defilements) is indeed hard to transcend."

Everyone likes to be in control of their own lives and dislikes being managed by others.

Once we try to control others, it will inevitably provoke a strong backlash,

because the desire to control is itself a manifestation of greed for power. 

中國對美國的指控，應該大多數都是指控他們干涉自己內政，對嗎？😂

誰是誰非不說～

但如果國家與國家之間尚且如此，一般人更不用說

沒有人喜歡別人干涉掌控自己的事情的

在Ud.19 中記載過這樣的一個故事：

有一次，毘舍佉和波斯匿王有生意來往，但和國王的協議不似預期

毘舍佉辦完事後去見佛陀

佛陀問她為什麼中午才來到呢？她便和盤托出

佛陀知道後便說：

'所有他人的控制是苦的，所有自己做主的是快樂的

他們有共同的苦惱，軛（煩惱）確實是難超越的'

每個人都喜歡自己作主，不喜歡別人管

一旦我們試圖控制掌控別人，必然會引起強烈的反彈的

因為貪求控制與掌控，本身就是屬於貪權的表現 

《無為而治》

這個世界，其實沒有人喜歡被管的😂 

要不然為什麼西方世界，總是說‘自由’ ，‘民主’ ？

任何眾生都不希望受人管束，任何眾生都希望自己做主

如果想弄到一個人發脾氣，非常簡單～

完全管束他所有的一切

他想這樣做，就偏叫他那樣做

他想那樣做，就偏叫他這樣做

他想做，就偏不讓他做

他不想做，就偏要他做😂

如果他是我們兒子，很快他就和我們脫離關係了 😂

如果他是我們下屬，很快他就辭職不做了😂

如果他是我們的國民，很快他就移民去了😂

所以大家可以看到，沒人喜歡貪權的人的。

貪權就是貪於控制別人，掌控別人

什麼都管一餐

一旦給這樣的壓迫感別人，別人離遠見到我們都走人了😂

根本不想靠近我們

所以老子的‘無為而治’ 實在高明！

我們看似不做，其實已經在做了

這個人有這樣的才能，就把他放在這個崗位上

那個人有這樣的才能，就把他放在那個崗位上

給予大方向，但細微的工作就放任給他去做；不必事事親力親為

我們沒有過多的干預，讓他作主，自由發揮；他肯定會愛上和我們合作的

結果他效率又高，又工作得開心；整個團隊的效能又高，氣氛又好

一個良好的領導並不是操控者，而是協調者。

善待每個人，把他們的福祉和才能完全放大

把自我縮小，不會自我中心

這樣才受歡迎，別人才喜歡受我們領導的

Ajahn Brahm 曾說過一個故事。就是中國皇家軍隊的將軍，曾被皇帝問到：‘為什麼他的士兵會有如此完美的紀律，但其他軍隊卻沒有？’ 他就回答：‘我的軍隊總是順從我，因為我總是叫他們做他們已經想做的東西了！’😂

Ajahn Brahm 說，這不只是笑話，這揭示了領導的秘密。秘密就是動力。  整個軍隊被這位將軍良好地施予動力，以致於當他們被將軍命令要長久苛刻地訓練時，他們本身已經想這樣做了。

所以如果在管理上，我們要求別人做一些他們不想做的東西時；這已經是失敗的管理了。

高層管理者，假如有效地讓下屬有動力，他們就會賣力地自願工作。

管理者務必要騰空自己，讓自己看清全局。

《三國志》中諸葛亮說：“君逸臣勞國必興，君勞臣逸國必衰”

意思是，身為君主每天很辛苦，臣子很清閒的話，這個國家就將走向消亡。反之，如果君主很清閒臣子很努力做事的話，這個國家就會興旺發達。

這是因為治理者得以讓自己騰空出來，看清全局，就如船手能夠專心地把整艘船的大方向把握好。

假如自己都被瑣事所佔據，過份干涉下屬；那麼自己將看不清全局，整個團體很快就會步向衰敗

"Govern Without Action"

In this world, no one really likes to be controlled. 😂

Otherwise, why does the Western world always talk about "freedom" and "democracy"?

No sentient being wishes to be constrained; everyone wants to be their own master.

If we want to make someone throw tantrum , it’s very simple—

completely control everything about them.

If they want to do this, make them do that.

If they want to do that, make them do this.

If they want to do something, prevent them from doing it.

If they don’t want to do something, force them to do it. 😂

If they are our child, they will quickly sever ties with us. 😂

If they are our subordinate, they will soon resign. 😂

If they are our citizen, they will likely emigrate. 😂

So, it’s clear that no one likes people who are greed for power.

Greed for power means desiring to control and dominate others.

Once they feel oppressed, they will avoid us. 😂

They won’t want to be close to us at all.

Thus, Laozi’s idea of "governing without action" is truly profound!

It seems we do nothing, yet we are already doing a lot.

If someone has a certain talent, place them in that role.

Give a general direction, but let them handle the details freely; there’s no need to micromanage.

By not over-interfering and allowing them to take charge, they will surely enjoy working with us.

As a result, their efficiency will increase, and they will work happily; the entire team will be effective and have a positive atmosphere.

A good leader is not a controller but a coordinator.

By treating everyone well, we magnify their welfare and talents,

while minimizing our own ego, not being self-centered.

That way, we are more welcomed, and others will be willing to follow our lead.

Ajahn Brahm once shared a story. A general of the imperial army was asked by the emperor, "Why do your soldiers exhibit such perfect discipline, while others do not?" He replied, "My army always obeys me because I always command them to do what they already want to do!" 😂

Ajahn Brahm said this is not just a joke; it reveals the secret of leadership. The secret is motivation. The entire army is well-motivated by this general, so when they are ordered to endure rigorous training, they already want to do it.

Therefore, if we require others to do tasks they do not want to do, that is already a failure in management.

If higher-level managers effectively motivate their subordinates, they will willingly work hard.

Managers must elevate themselves to gain a clear view of the whole picture.

In "Records of the Three Kingdoms," Zhuge Liang stated: "If the ruler is at ease while the ministers toil, the state will surely perish; if the ruler works hard while the ministers are at ease, the state will surely perish."

Because if the ruler is at ease, this allows him to step back and see the larger picture, just as a helmsman can focus on steering the entire ship.

If they are bogged down by trivial matters and excessively interfere with subordinates, they will lose sight of the bigger picture, leading the entire group to decline quickly. 

有許多人結婚是為了有個人可以控制操控

有許多人生兒育女是為了有個人可以控制操控

有許多人對人好是為了有個人可以控制操控

滿足自己的權力慾

Many people get married or enter relationships to have someone they can control and manipulate.

Many people have children to have someone they can control and manipulate.

Many people are good to others to have someone they can control and manipulate

satisfying their desire for power.

曾經有人問覓寂尊者，應該親近哪位善知識？哪位禪師是可以親近的？

尊者回答，通常自己只能提出一兩位而已，為什麼呢？因為尊者說他深知：‘即使止觀禪修不錯的比丘，在受到名聞、利養、權力、女色的誘惑下，經得起考驗的比丘寥寥可數。’

其中一個致命點是權力

貪權就是貪求控制別人，貪求掌控的自私心。 

一旦別人不聽我們說，不受我們控制；然後我們生氣，這就是貪權的表現。

一旦我們身為出家人有很強烈的控制欲，那時心已經還俗了。不再叫師父或尼師；而是叫大佬/老大/大姐大

一旦我們身為在家佛教徒而有很強烈的控制欲，我們不再叫師兄師姐了；而是叫大佬/老大/大姐大

一旦我們身為別人的伴侶而有很強烈的控制欲，我們不再叫老公老婆了；而是叫大佬/老大/大姐大

一旦我們身為別人的父母而有很強烈的控制欲，我們不再叫爸爸媽媽了；子女應該叫我們大佬/老大/大姐大

Once, someone asked Venerable Santagavesaka , which good spiritual friend should one associate with? Which master is approachable?

The venerable replied that typically he can only name one or two, and why? Because he understood deeply that “even among monks who practice samatha and vipassana well, very few can withstand the temptations of fame, wealth, power, and sensual pleasures.”

One of the critical weakness is power.

Greed for power is the selfish desire to control others. When others do not listen to us or are not under our control, and we become angry, that is a manifestation of greed for power.

When we, as monastics, have a strong desire for control, our hearts have already reverted to lay people. We no longer called master; instead, we are called boss

When we, as lay Buddhists, have a strong desire for control, we are no longer called brothers or sisters; we are called boss.

When we are someone's partner and have a strong desire for control, we no longer call each other husband or wife; we are called boss.

When we are someone's parents and have a strong desire for control, we are no longer called dad or mom; children should refer to us as boss.

每一種煩惱，一旦給他們滋長，都是後患無窮的。

比如說，控制欲。

控制欲就是貪權。因為權力就是控制的力量。我們貪求別人順著我們意思去做，受我們控制，這個就是貪權。這種煩惱就幾乎所有人都有。

父母子女之間，夫妻之間，伴侶之間，老師學生之間，老闆與員工之間.....

要測試一下自己的控制欲有多強？ 只需當別人不順著自己的意思去做時，不聽自己說時，自己有多生氣，就知道自己控制欲有多強了。如果發脾氣的話，那麼控制欲就不得了。如果沒有任何生氣不滿的話，那就沒有多少。

如果說控制欲的代表人物是誰，

大家猜到嗎？

那就是他化自在天的魔王。

當下誰人是控制狂，但做了許多許多功德，就算您現在是佛教徒都好，您下一生都可能投生為魔王或魔眾。

對！

大目犍連尊者在一大不可數劫前被高見佛授記會當上首弟子後，竟然在這個大劫出現的拘留孫佛時投生成為了魔王。 在佛教裡搗亂。

Ajahn Brahm 形容魔王是控制狂來的。

為什麼？他以控制人，看人享受五欲而獲得樂趣。如果無聊的話就可能變些影像，聲音，氣味，味道，觸感和感官目標讓您接觸到；讓您生起貪嗔癡，然後讓您按照他既定的劇本去走，當他的扯線公仔。 是否很狡猾？他會覺得很好玩的

魔王就最痛恨那些修行人了。為什麼？因為任何人如果修得好的話，根本就不受他控制。 無論他製造什麼條件給您，您都不起貪嗔癡，不會給他愚弄。 所以如果誰人修行想要證得涅槃，他肯定會搗蛋來破壞的。就算他不出馬，也會派手下來搗亂。

因為您在逃離他的控制。 他會視正在修行的您在挑戰他的權威。

他的控制欲可是非同小可的，整個欲界甚至是梵眾天他都想控制，並且有能力控制。

不只是佛陀時代魔王會來搗亂，就算是無佛時代那些離欲修習禪定禪那的隱士，還是獨覺佛，魔王都會來搗亂破壞。

當然，造了那麼多那麼大的惡業，下地獄是遲早的事。

因此如果現在誰是控制欲極強的話，就要很小心了。 一不小心投生成為魔王魔眾，再下一生可能就地獄見了。

<<The Desire to control>>

Every kind of defilement, once it is allowed to grow, can lead to great trouble.

Take the desire to control as an example.

The desire to control is the craving for power. Power is the force of control. When we desire others to act according to our wishes and be under our control, that is the craving for power. This defilement is one that almost everyone possesses.

Between parents and children, between spouses, between partners, between teachers and students, between bosses and employees...

How can you test your level of  the desire to control ? Simply observe how angry you get when others do not follow your wishes or do not listen to you. If you throw a tantrum, then your  the desire to control  is significant. If you feel no anger or dissatisfaction, then it is not much.

If we were to identify a representative figure of  the desire to control , who would it be? Can you guess?

It would be the demon king of the Heaven of Para-nimmita-vasa-vattin.

Currently, who is a control freak, yet has done many good deeds? Even if you are a Buddhist now, you may be reborn as a demon king or part of the demon horde in your next life.

Indeed!

The great monk Mahā Moggallāna was prophesied by the Buddha  Anumodassi to become the foremost disciple long one immesurable eons before , yet he ended up being reborn as a demon king during the emergence of the Buddha Kakusandha who appeared in this great eon. He caused much disturbance in Buddhism.

Ajahn Brahm describes the demon king as a control freak.

Why? He controls people and seeks to enjoy watching the enjoyment of others in five sensual desires. If he gets bored, he might create images, sounds, smells, tastes, sensations, and sensory targets for you to engage with; he makes you develop greed, aversion, and delusion; and then guides you along the script he has preordained, make you like a puppet on strings.

Isn't that cunning? He finds it very amusing.

The demon king especially hates practitioners. Why? Because if anyone practices well, they are not under his control at all. No matter what conditions he creates for you, you will not develop greed, aversion, or delusion, and you won’t be fooled by him. So if someone practices and wants to attain Nibanna, he will definitely cause trouble to disrupt that. Even if he doesn’t intervene himself, he will send his minions to create chaos.

Because you are escaping his control! he sees your practice as a challenge to his authority.

His controlling desire is quite significant; he desires to control the entire realm of desires and even the lower Brahma worlds, and he has the ability to do so.

It is not just during the Buddha's time that the demon king causes disturbances; even in times without a Buddha, those who practice detachment and meditation, as well as solitary buddhas, will still face disruptions from the demon king.

Of course, having committed so many grave evils, going to hell is just a matter of time.

Therefore, if anyone has a very strong  desire to control right now, they need to be very careful. If not, they could be reborn as a demon king or part of the demon horde, and in the next next life, they might find themselves in hell.

曾經在香港發生過這樣的事情：

有位醫生於醫院當值期間，不足一個星期內，兩度用手機偷拍兩名女護士的裙底

在法庭求情的時候，揭露被母親操控的痛苦人生。辯方指其母會抽起他九成薪金，又不滿兒子的每一任女友，惟醫生瞞著母親與護士女友珠胎暗結，護士女友知道二人關係不會獲准，為使醫生內疚而墮胎，醫生夾在二人之間終壓力「爆煲」，為博「釘牌」以脫離嚴母陰影而犯案。

之所以會發生這樣的悲劇，是因為不明白。

不明白什麼？不明白無我的道理。

佛陀說：一切法無我。

這世上沒有東西是屬於我們的。

如果真的屬於我們的，我們就能夠完全將它們掌控。

身體是我們的嗎？ 我們能夠指揮讓心不要跳嗎？

心是我們的嗎？我們能指揮讓它一直保持快樂嗎？

我們會看到，我們連自己也控制不到，怎麼能夠奢望能夠完全控制別人或其他事物？

兒子不是我們的，他有自己的思想，自己的意欲。他有自己的人生

我們做過別人的兒女就會知道了。父母有時禁止我們做一些東西，年幼時還禁得住，長大後還禁得住嗎？

於是我們會知道，去控制他們根本行不通。假如一定要他們依循自己的意思行事，不僅苦了他們，也苦了自己。

關係一破裂是很難去修補的。一直吵吵吵，不久他就不想理我們，搬出去住，一去不回頭了。

有些父母到老還不明白，兒女二十多歲，三十多歲，五十多歲還施行年幼時的那套，只會反效果。因為沒有人想做任何人的奴隸

其實情侶夫妻關係也是這樣。一開始激情澎拜的時候還會受落對方的控制，每天都要報告自己的行踪，和什麼人見面了等等。有時雙方甚至會禁止對方和異性來往。

但這不是恆久維持關係的良策。當激情退卻，理智回歸，就會開始減少對對方的遷就。我們每個人都有自己的生活和圈子，總不能為了一個人而放棄整個世界和自己的朋友圈子。假如還好像一開始那樣控制對方，只會吵架，最後分手收場。

沒有一樣東西是我們的。

佛陀教導，假如父母想得到兒女的尊重，應施行四攝法。(DN31)

1.我們對兒女布施，把他們喜歡的東西送給他們，讓他們快樂

2.我們對兒女說好聽友愛的說話，讓他們快樂

3.我們總是為兒女著想，讓他們知道自己其實是為他們好。施行‘利行’，建議他們：這個應做，這個不應做，結交這樣的人，不要結交這樣的人

4.我們實行平等，和兒女同甘共苦。當他們受苦的時候陪伴他們，悲憫他們，給他們傾訴。 當他們成功的時候，和他們一起慶祝，為他們開心。 平時多和他們一起吃飯相處。不會讓自己顯得高高在上不能親近。

這四攝法就像一個齒輪一樣，假如缺少了它，整個機器也不能運作。

因此佛陀說，智者們看到了這四攝法的重要性，稱讚因此而達到偉大的人。

就算是男女朋友和夫妻，也都是依靠這四攝法去維持良好健康的關係。

悲劇的發生，往往都只是因為不明白。

沒有東西是我們的

我們只能夠在因上播種，但不能強行控制任何人事物。

《操控》

隆波甘哈有一次說關於Ajahn Brahm的事情， 他說：‘有人想控制Ajahn Brahm 和Perth 的比丘， 但他們不能做到。Ajahn Brahm已經是法的化身。他有智慧。他們怎能支配他呢？‘

又有一位很有名的大師父。據說現在幾乎都被信徒禁錮了，‘軟禁‘在一個地方那裡，外人都不能接觸到他，聯絡到他了

隆波帕默說：‘有些地方會讓自己變成高僧大德的主人，變成我、我的。‘ 

口裡說是為高僧大德好，實際上是在操控高僧大德，滿足自己的私慾與控制慾。有時甚至會對高僧大德下指令：‘你應該這樣做，你應該那樣做。‘

在九十二劫前有帝思佛（Dissa）和普思佛（Phussa）兩位佛陀出世。

普思佛的父親是名為馬興德（Mahinda）的國王。在佛陀證得正覺時國王的幼子是首席上首弟子，國師的兒子則是第二上首弟子。國王去到導師面前，看到他們『我的長子是佛陀，我的幼子是首席上首弟子，國師的兒子是第二上首弟子。 ’‘只屬於我的佛，只屬於我的法，只屬於我的僧，禮敬那位跋葛瓦、阿拉漢、正自覺者！ '如是三稱後拜倒在佛陀足下請求：'尊者，現在我已經到了九萬歲壽命的盡頭，到了該坐下來打瞌睡的時期一般，那麼只要我還活著，請別去其他人家門前，只接受我的四資具供養而住吧。 ’獲得許可後就持之以恆地護持供養佛陀。‘

可以看到這種現象其實是很常見的，操控的慾望，佔有的慾望。這其實是貪權的微細表現。因為權力就是控制的力量。

如果是熱戀期的情侶之間，雙方比較能夠受落。但在此之外，就不是了。

不過會發生這樣的事情，其實只是不知道而已。當我們明白了法後，便會知道，其實沒有東西能夠被掌控，自己的身心也不能夠被掌控，更何況外在的東西？ 沒有東西真正是屬於我們的。

當這樣去鬆開自己的控制慾後，便能純潔地愛每一個人，而不是帶著自私地愛（操控）一個人。

有許多教練都會對自己的運動員實行賽前禁慾。

他們相信能夠提升比賽表現。

也有些歌唱家，會在大演唱前禁慾；讓自己可以養精蓄銳，擊中high C

這些其實是很有道理的

當然～有另一些研究指出相反的結論

但我們其實可以親身體驗到的

隆波帕默曾說:'比如說如果我們是居士，心裡面生起了淫慾，我們去過性生活。而我們是修行人，我們就會知道的。在這個性生活過後，就會覺得都沒有快樂 。之後呢，我們的心沒有力氣了，我們的心散亂了，我們的心萎靡不振了。 '

所以我們可以看到，性愛，其實是很損耗心的能量的。

有些研究以手握力來作基準，有些以肌肉耐力來作基準；然後說第二天表現沒分別。

但哪有這麼簡單？

性愛裡強烈的貪欲，最主要是吃掉我們的精神力量，影響我們的整體表現

有些音樂家原本以優秀的演奏蜚聲國際，誒，但過了許多年再聽他們的消息，就發現有許多負評，說許多錯音啊、 沒有進步啊、 車禍啊......

然後就被發現嫖妓了

其實任何貪嗔癡都會影響我們的表現和工作能力。為什麼？因為根據阿比達摩論師，當心有貪嗔癡時，一定是散亂的，心已經喪失適合工作的特徵了。

假如性行為後，心來不及恢復，到第二天還那麼散亂。這時就算手握力一樣，有什麼用？ 肯定會有影響的

因此無論我們是玩音樂、 玩體育、 讀書、 工作；也不能讓心太過沉溺於感官欲樂，這才能讓我們有最好的表現。

與其沉迷性愛，為什麼不禪修？ Ajahn Brahm 說啊，進入禪那的快感比性高潮更高！

當我們的心能夠很穩定地集中下來，連日常生活的表現也會節節上升的！

既開心，又能帶來世間的繁榮；禪修是比性愛更好的替代品

Many coaches enforce pre-competition abstinence for their athletes, believing it enhances performance. 

Similarly, some vocalists abstain before major concerts to conserve energy and hit those high notes flawlessly.

There’s logic to this—though some studies claim otherwise. 

But we can experience it firsthand. 

As Luang Por Pramote once said:

"If a layperson feels lust and engages in sex, a meditator will notice: Afterward, there’s no real happiness. Instead, the mind feels weak, restless, and dull."

Sex drains mental energy. Some studies measure grip strength or muscle endurance and claim "no difference" the next day—but that’s oversimplified. 

The intense craving in sex devours our mental strength, affecting overall performance.

Take musicians: Some once renowned for brilliance worldwide, later face many criticisms—wrong notes, stagnation, "trainwreck" performances. 

Then news surface: "They’ve been visiting brothels."

Greed, hatred, and delusion all degrade ability. Why? According to Abhidhamma scholars, when the mind is tainted by these, it must be restless, and also loses the qualities needed for work

Even if our grip strength is unchanged post-sex, what use is that?

what if our mind remains restless and unconcentrated the next day? Performance will suffer.

Whether in music, sports, academics, or careers—indulging in sensory pleasures sabotages peak performance.

A Better Alternative? Meditation.

Ajahn Brahm says: "The bliss of jhāna (deep meditation) surpasses orgasm!"

A stably concentrated mind undoubtedly elevates daily functioning.

Not only having happiness , but we can also have worldly success.

Why not Meditation! 

it is the superior substitute for sex

這些是什麼？

女士們垂涎欲滴的小鮮肉啊！

這些是小鮮肉裡真正的小鮮肉～

下次見到靚仔靚女要這樣看，保證很快變大師

Next time when meeting  hotties, view like this, then very soon we will be great master

嗯🤔 這個有道理

這位師兄說呢，新時代的不淨觀，想一想異性有多煩就可以了

這也是削減煩惱的方法之一😂👍👍

不淨觀的目標，是去除對身體的執著，去除對異性的執著，去除淫欲和情慾

思維異性的一些過患，有時可收異曲同工之妙

隆波帕默曾說，有一位出家師父，曾經心思思想還俗找老婆。然後就開始構想：娶了老婆之後會怎樣？ 生了孩子之後怎樣？ 不斷想想想，然後發現原來非常煩，唉：不如出家去。

這時驚覺，自己已經在出家了😂

有時佛陀會對一些受情慾困擾的比丘說法，說這個女人啊，過去世怎樣讓他受害。讓比丘的心立即縮回去。

之後再說四聖諦，就讓比丘證果了

只要是能夠削減煩惱的一些思維，都是有效導向涅槃的

如果誰不想做猥瑣佬，當心癢癢的時候，當心被淫欲之火灼燒時

應做自己的鹹濕（好色）救星

佛陀教導，首先應該思維異性身體的不淨：裡面有屎啊，尿啊，食物殘渣啊，血啊，皮下面是紅色的肉啊，內臟啊...這樣心或許能夠平靜下來

如果依然不能讓心平靜下來的話，就思維淫欲的過患。例如那些大師父啊，有神通的師兄姐啊，心一集中來我們這裡，就知道我們原來是鹹濕佬/鹹濕婆！ 我們以為關上門手淫沒人知道？對不起，他們看著呢。 如果縱容自己鹹濕下去，就會心思思找伴侶，但因為太鹹濕，所以蒙蔽理智：找的人質素和品格都不佳，很快又要分手，就算結婚了很快又會離婚。 然後剩下自己在痛哭。 假如還不能節制自己的鹹濕，鹹濕到某個點，就會在公眾場所裡行為不檢啊，偷怕啊，非禮啊，強姦啊；然後被關進監牢。如果我們搞婚外情啊，犯邪淫啊，下輩子就下地獄了。事實上，假如我們在任何一刻帶著淫欲死去，我們也會墮落惡道受苦。

這樣心或許能夠平靜下來

如果依然不能讓心平靜下來的話，就不要想這些情慾念頭。做其他東西，把專注力放在其他地方。這樣心或許能夠平靜下來

如果依然不能讓心平靜下來的話，就應該在心裡下定決心、 決意讓這些思維停下來 。這樣心或許能夠平靜下來

如果仍然不能平靜下來，便應該緊扣牙齒、舌抵上顎後，以心抑止、壓迫、破壞那些心念。但不要緊繃。這樣心或許能夠平靜下來

（Ref. MN20 )

original Image cred. To teng pong lau

If we don’t want to be a creep, when lust itches in our heart, when we're burning with the fire of desire—

we must become our own savior from lust.

According to the Buddha's teaching. First, we should reflect on the impurity of the body: inside, there’s poo, piss, undigested food, blood, red flesh beneath the skin, organs… This might calm the mind.

If that still doesn’t work, contemplate the dangers of lust. For example, those great masters and spiritually advanced practitioners—once they focus their minds on us, they’ll know we’re just perverts! we think closing the door to masturbate means no one sees? Sorry, they’re watching.

If we indulge in lust, our mind will obsess over finding a partner. But because we're  so horny, our judgment gets clouded—we'll end up with someone of poor character and low quality. Soon, we will  break up, or even if we marry, we'll quickly divorce. Then we're left crying alone.

If we still can’t control our lust, at some point, we might act inappropriately in public—peeping, groping, even rape. Then we'll end up in prison. If we commit adultery or sexual misconduct, next life, we're headed for hell. In fact, if we die with lust in our heart at any moment, we'll fall into the lower realms and suffer.

This might calm the mind.

If that still doesn’t work, stop entertaining lustful thoughts. Do something else—shift our focus. This might calm the mind.

If that still doesn’t work, make a firm resolution in our heart to stop these thoughts. This might calm the mind.

If we still can’t settle, clench our teeth, press our tongue to the roof of your mouth, and mentally suppress, crush, and destroy those thoughts—but don’t strain. This might calm the mind.

(Ref. MN 20)

(Original image cred. to Teng Pong Lau)

異性啊，是非常的虛幻的啊

不用等到老啊，過一陣子他們已經可以完全走樣了

雖然現在是辣妹、 帥哥

但一兩個月再見他們，便可以因為壓力、 熬夜、 暴食，而瞬間變大肥妹大肥仔，可以暗瘡長滿整塊面

現在還小鳥依人，月經來時就變黑社會

現在還是彬彬有禮的君子，把我們追到手後就變流氓

他們絕對不是什麼寶貝，不要因一時衰鹹濕(好色）而蒙蔽了理智.......

The opposite sex is utterly illusory!

we don't even need to wait until old age - they can completely transform within a short time.

They might be hot chicks or handsome guys now,

but just meet them again in a month or two - stress, sleepless nights, binge eating can instantly turn them into chubby girls or fat guys, with acne covering their entire face.

Right now they might be all delicate and dependent like a little bird,

but when their period comes they turn into gangsters.

Today they're polite gentlemen,

but after winning our affection they become complete ruffians.

They're absolutely not some precious treasure -

don't let temporary lust cloud our rationality......

如果誰覺得身體是很美很漂亮的話

去廁所後看看自己的屎尿

保證智慧頓開

不僅我們身體有這些

性感美女身體有這些

爆肌型男的身體也有這些

If Anyone Thinks the Body is Beautiful...

Go to the toilet and look at your own urine and feces—

guaranteed, wisdom will instantly arise.

Not only does our body contain these things,

but the bodies of sexy beauties also contain them,

and so do the bodies of muscular hunks.

(Image credit: Icon Duck)

有一個極端叫做Da Vinci (達文西） ， 有另一個極端叫做打飛機 （手淫和自慰的廣東話）

誰沉迷打飛機，他不可能是天才，肯定是智障

嘿～等等，不是罵人、罵髒話。

所謂‘智障’，就是智力的障礙

誰試過手淫和過性生活？ 隆波帕默說：‘在這個性生活過後，就會覺得沒有快樂 。之後我們的心會沒有力氣，我們的心散亂了，我們的心萎靡不振了。’

這樣低能量的心，是不可能很敏捷和聰明的，而是很遲鈍和愚昧的。

這時做簡單加減數， 都做不到了

試想想如果我們一直處於這個遲鈍的狀態之中，這不是智障是什麼？

什麼都提不起勁，什麼都處理不到

所以可以看到的，誰人縱慾的話，他在那段時期一定是較蠢的(Ref. AN5.51) 可能小學生都能 KO 他

要記得，任何貪嗔癡，都會障礙我們的智慧和心的清明度的

如果誰沒有煩惱的遮蔽，這是智障的‘障’被拿開了，只剩下‘智’了

There is one extreme called Da Vinci, and another extreme called "Da 

Feiji" (a Cantonese slang term for masturbation).

Whoever is addicted to "Da Feiji" cannot be a genius—they must be intellectually impaired.

Who has tried masturbation or sexual activity? Luang Por Pramote said: "After engaging in sexual activity, we feel no happiness. Afterward, our mind loses strength, becomes scattered, and sinks into lethargy."

A mind in such a low-energy state cannot be sharp and intelligent—it becomes dull and foolish.

At that point, even simple addition and subtraction become difficult.

Think about it: if we remain in this sluggish state all the time, isn’t that what intellectual impairment is?

We lose motivation for everything and can’t handle anything.

So it’s clear: whoever indulges in lust will be noticeably dumber during that period (Ref. AN5.51). Even an elementary school student could outsmart them.

Remember, any form of greed, hatred, or delusion obstructs our wisdom and mental clarity.

If someone is free from the veil of defilements, the "impairment" in "intellectual impairment" is removed, leaving only "intelligence."

這些研究和專家實在誤導人啊！

他們聲稱假如我們不自慰、 沒有性行為，人就會焦慮、抑鬱且壓力倍增

這些專家根本是痛苦的專家！

看看那些僧人多麼快樂啊！

當內心充斥淫欲時，只會感到燥熱不安，失去清涼與快樂

真正令人神清氣爽的快樂，唯有在平靜、 沒有煩惱的心中才能找到⋯⋯

圖片來源：UNILAD

these research and experts are really misleading

They say that without sex and mastirbation ; one will experience anxiety, depression and increased levels of stress

These are experts to suffering

See how happy those monks are!

When our mind is stuffed with lust , it is burning and uncomfortable , it has lost its coolness and happiness

True happiness that is refreshing could only find in stillness, a mind without defilements....

Image cred. To UNILAD

為什麼要化妝？ 因為本身不美才要化妝！

如果已經美到完美了，還需要化妝做什麼？

身體的本質就是不美不漂亮

就算是環球小姐，面上一出現一個傷口就美感全失了。

我們的皮膚根本就是我們喬裝的伎倆

皮膚一剝開，誰都不想看了....

image cred. to 黃子華驚點語錄

Our male and female idols

Their beautiful faces inevitably have five types of 'faeces':

Eye faeces

Nose faeces

Face faeces: acne, blackheads, oil

Teeth faeces

Head faeces: dandruff, scalp oil

Dare to kiss through this 'faeces'? 😘

我們的男神、女神

漂亮的面蛋必然有五種屎

眼屎

鼻屎

臉屎：暗瘡、黑頭、油脂

牙屎

頭屎：頭皮、頭油

敢不敢親下去這些屎裡？😘

性感美女，爆肌型男根本就是這隻黃鴨

一眨眼就又皺又扁

變到好像外星人那樣

Sexy beauties and ripped, muscular men are basically just this yellow duck.

In the blink of an eye, it's all wrinkled and flat,

Transforming into something like an alien.

在一條河流

牛在喝水

突然，有一群人來到上游不知做了些什麼

牛群喝著喝著，為什麼味道變了？ 

感到不對勁後，牛群便離去了....

同樣地，所謂的型男美女

一開始可能很吸引

和他們談戀愛和結婚後

女人心裡納悶：為什麼當年的六塊腹肌合為一團？ 為什麼曾經的性感俊男變成了中年大叔？ 為什麼當年浪漫的白馬王子變成了西楚霸王？ 

男人也心裡納悶： 為什麼當年的精緻身材變成了肥膏？ 為什麼當年的性感美女變成了大媽？ 為什麼當年可愛動人的女神變成了潑婦？

歲月不知做了些什麼

無常不知做了些什麼

智者感到不對勁後，厭倦了這一切....

By the River

Cows were drinking water when suddenly, a group of people arrived upstream and did something unknown.

As the cows drank:why did the taste change?

Sensing something was wrong, they left...

Similarly, so-called "handsome men" and "beautiful women" may seem captivating at first.

But after falling in love or marrying them—

Women wonder: Why did those six-pack abs merge into one? Why did the once-sexy hunk turn into a middle-aged uncle? Why did the romantic prince charming become a domineering tyrant?

Men also wonder: Why did that once-perfect body turn into flab? Why did the once-glamorous beauty become an aunty? Why did the adorable goddess turn into a shrew?

Time does something inexplicable.

Impermanence does something inexplicable.

The wise, sensing something amiss, grow weary of it all...

‘白滑美腿’？

’大波美女‘？

’肌肉男’？

唉！誰這樣想就慘了。

佛陀說，他不見，除了不恰當地留意乾淨美麗的影象外，有另外其他一樣東西是會讓未生起的貪欲生起，已生起的貪欲增大的（AN1.11)

誰這樣想遲早會變大猥瑣佬/大猥瑣婆

白滑美腿？哪裡白滑！ 看不見那些黑色的毛嗎？看不見那些雞皮嗎？不知道裡面全都是血、 肉、 膿嗎？

大波美女？ 哪裡美！ 把她的’波‘割下來，看看’波‘裡有什麼，我們再下定論。

肌肉男？ 那麼喜歡肌肉，也是把他的皮剝下來，然後欣賞一下他的肌肉吧....

佛陀說，透過恰當地留意不美麗的影像，就能捨斷貪欲（AN1.16)

其實很多時候只是看待東西的角度而已。

角度一轉，就立即啟動聖人模式......

"Smooth, fair legs?"
"Big-breasted beauty?"
"Muscular hunk?"

Sigh! Anyone who thinks like this is in trouble.

The Buddha said he could find nothing—aside from improperly attending to clean, beautiful images—that causes unarisen lust to arise and already-arisen lust to increase (AN 1.11).

Those who dwell on such thoughts will inevitably become lecherous creeps.

"Smooth, fair legs?" Where’s the smoothness? Can’t we see the dark hairs? The goosebumps? Don’t we know they’re just blood, flesh, and pus inside?

"Big-breasted beauty?" Where’s the beauty? Cut off those boobs and inspect what’s inside—then we decide.

"Muscular hunk?" If we love muscles so much, peel off his skin and admire them properly...

The Buddha taught that by properly attending to unattractive images, lust is abandoned (AN 1.16).

Often, it’s just a matter of perspective. Shift our angle, and we instantly enter "sage mode."

(Image source: "Silenced")

諺語有云:'英雄難過美人關'

很正常吖~

佛陀曾說,他不見還有像異性的物質身體那樣的物質持續佔據男女的心 

也不見還有像異性的聲音那樣的聲音持續佔據男女的心 

也不見還有像異性的氣味那樣的氣味持續佔據男女的心 

也不見還有像異性的味道那樣的味道持續佔據男女的心 

也不見還有像異性的觸感那樣的觸感持續佔據男女的心  (AN1.1-10）

所以有些人懂得玩弄政治，就會送個女人去色誘一些政要，控制他們，套他們機密

通常都會成功

因為就如佛陀所說，沒有能夠和異性相比的感官欲樂了

如果英雄過不到美人關，根本就不叫英雄

In chinese ,there is a proverb goes like this : "Even heros can be seduced by a beautiful woman."

It's quite normal!

The Buddha once said that he did not see any physical bodies like the physical bodies of the opposite sex which can continuously occupying the hearts of men and women as such

The Buddha also said that he did not see any sound like the sound of the opposite sex which can continuously occupying the hearts of men and women as such

The Buddha also said that he did not see any scent like the scent of the opposite sex which can continuously occupying the hearts of men and women as such

The Buddha also said that he did not see any taste like the taste of the opposite sex which can continuously occupying the hearts of men and women as such

The Buddha also said that he did not see any touches like the touches of the opposite sex which can continuously occupying the hearts of men and women as such  (AN 1.1-10)

Therefore, some people who are keen on playing politics will always send a woman to seduce certain officials, controlling them and extracting confidential information.

This usually succeeds, because as the Buddha said, there is no sensory pleasure that can compare to that of the opposite sex.

If a hero cannot overcome the allure of a beauty, then they are not a hero at all.

如果我們看到異性，生起淫欲是人之常情

雖是人之常情，但還是屬於不善的煩惱

Ajahn Brahm 在出家初期也努力去除過淫欲

Ajahn Brahm 的方法是：

當他要和漂亮的女性聊天時

他就會注意對方面部的瑕疵

直到他禪修的境界深到脫離淫欲之險

其實可以注意的部份非常多。例如異性面上的墨痣、 紅斑、 黑斑、 暗瘡、 坑痕、 毛、 鬍鬚、 油、 毛孔.....

假如細看這些面部的缺陷，就會立馬失去對他們的興趣。因為根本不好看

如果對方化妝，塗上許多粉末、 塗上唇膏；就更加可怕。試試吃一下那些粉末？試試把那支唇膏拿來吃？ 興趣立即全失

這很簡單，因為完全不用用到想像，這是肉眼直接見到的景象

如果誰的想像力好，可以想像把面皮剝下，剩下眼球、 肉和骨頭

噢～娶這樣的肉和骨回家真是吸引～

嫁給這樣的肉和骨真是吸引～

It Is common to feel Lust When Seeing the Opposite Sex

While it is common to feel lust when seeing the opposite sex, it still belongs to unwholesome defilements.

Ajahn Brahm also worked hard to eliminate lust in the early days of his monastic life. 

His method was: when he was about to chat with an attractive woman, he would pay attention to her facial imperfections 

until his meditation deepened enough to free him from the dangers of lust.

There are actually many aspects to observe. For example, moles, red spots, black spots, acne, scars, hair, mustaches, oiliness, and pores on the face...

If we closely examine these facial flaws, we will immediately lose interest in them because they are simply unappealing. 

If the person is wearing makeup, with lots of powders and lipsticks, it becomes even more unsettling. 

Try tasting those powders? Try eating that lipstick? 

Interest is instantly lost.

This is very simple because it does not require imagination; it is a sight seen directly with the eyes.

For those with good imagination, they can visualize stripping off the skin, leaving only the eyeballs, flesh, and bones.

Oh, bringing home such flesh and bones is really appealing!
Marrying such flesh and bones is truly attractive!

我們幾乎所有人對淫欲都是依依不捨的

之所以依依不捨，是因為看不清過患

如果我們容許淫欲滋生，會惹來非常大的麻煩的

看到誰英俊或漂亮，淫欲就爆發

淫欲讓我們要沒有尊嚴地追女孩子/追男孩子哦～

淫欲要我們做觀音兵哦～

淫欲讓我們追到型男索女後不斷吵架、 妒忌、 吝嗇、 生氣

淫欲讓我們失去理智而未婚懷孕

淫欲讓我們生下孩子後被家庭束縛和拖累、 自由全失，最終患上抑鬱症、 引申許多情緒問題....

全部都是因為淫欲而起

所謂‘食得鹹魚抵得渴’，如果承受到這一切痛苦，就沒有什麼問題

如果承受不到，就要把淫欲去除

Most of us are reluctant to let go of lust. 

The reason for this reluctance is that we fail to see its harmful consequences.

If we allow lust to grow, it will bring about significant troubles. 

When we see someone handsome or beautiful, lust erupts.

Lust drives us to pursue others without dignity. It makes us behave foolishly.

Lust leads to constant arguments, jealousy, stinginess, and anger after we chase after attractive partners. 

It can cause us to lose our rationality and end up with unintended pregnancies.

After having children, we may find ourselves bound and burdened by family responsibilities, losing all freedom, ultimately leading to depression and various emotional issues...

All of these arises from lust.

The saying goes, "If you eat the salty fish, you must endure the thirst." 

If we can endure all of these pain, then there is no problem. 

If we cannot endure it, we must eliminate lust.

男士們，這就是美腿了，真是性感

Gentlemen, this is the beautiful leg, just so sexy

image cred. to WCNC

Do we  want a country or  beauty？

Do we want a country but not beauty?

Do we  want beauty but not a country?

Do we  want both?

No matter how we choose, it’s foolishness. 😂

Beauty is an illusion.

What if we try to peel off the beauty’s skin on her face?

What if we peel off all the skin on her body?

Do we still have sexual desire?

Do we still want to sleep with her? 😂

What is a country?

Is it people, land, buildings, and wealth combined?

Oh, a country is essentially nothing.

It’s just earth elements, water elements, fire elements, wind elements, space elements, and consciousness elements combined.

They are constantly changing, uncontrollable, and a heavy burden.

Would anyone who sees this truth still want it?

So wanting a country but not beauty is foolish.

Wanting beauty but not a country is also foolish.

Wanting both a country and beauty is foolish too. 😂

Yet we still desire them.

Who truly don’t want them deep down are the Buddha, the Arahants, or people like them.

We have our moments of ignorance and moments of wisdom,

but the Buddha and the Arahants possess only wisdom, without any ignorance.

要江山還是要美人？

要江山不要美人？

要美人不要江山？

兩個都要？

無論怎樣選都是愚蠢😂

美人是假的。

試試把美人的面皮剝下來？

試試把整個身體的皮都剝下來？

我們還有性慾嗎？

我們還想和她一起睡嗎？😂

江山是什麼？

是人、國土、建築物、財富加在一起？

噢～江山根本沒有什麼

只是地元素、水元素、火元素、風元素、空元素、識元素

它們不斷轉變、無法掌控、是很沉重的負擔

看到這個事實的人會要嗎？

所以要江山不要美人是愚昧的

要美人不要江山也是愚昧的

既要江山也要美人是愚昧的😂

奈何我們還是想要

真正心底裡真心不想要的，就是佛陀和阿羅漢，或像他們的人

我們有愚昧的時候，也有有智慧的時候

但佛陀和阿羅漢只有智慧，沒有愚昧

An excrement bucket holds foul-smelling faces and urine.

Similarly, our bodies contain foul-smelling organs,  faces and urine.

When we show off our appearance and body, it's like showing off an excrement bucket. 😂

When we are hooked on others' bodies, it's equivalent to being hooked on an excrement bucket.

Sorry for being so direct. Please don’t be angry, bosses! 🙏😂 

屎桶裝著腥臭的屎尿

同樣地，我們的身體也裝著腥臭的內臟和屎尿

我們炫耀自己的容貌和身材

就等於炫耀屎桶

我們喜歡別人的肉體，就等於喜歡屎桶

對不起，太直接。不要生氣哦老大們

我們只愛看表面，但從不想過內在

所以才會鹹濕（好色）😂

we only like to look at the surface, but never think of what is inside

That's why we become lewd😂

有些人會被形容‘腦子進水’

有時和某個問題有關

腦子進水一般被人形容為愚蠢，腦筋轉不動

為什麼會這樣？ 那是因為心極之渾濁

佛陀在AN1.45中說，一個人假如有渾濁的心將不能知道自己和他人的利益的。

厚重的煩惱和污染也使心不清明清醒，記憶力下降（AN5.193)，聰明智慧下降（AN5.51)；就像進了水那樣😂

如果是青少年，有時和放縱淫欲有關。

網上看到，有些人是很誇張的，一有空餘時間就沉溺在色情影片、 手淫當中。

有伴侶的可能更誇張，一整天都和伴侶性交，一天許多次。

如果縱慾到這個程度，心是極之渾濁、 黑暗和愚昧的。聽過有些人的心因此而變得非常懶惰，懶於處理日常事務，或者根本沒有能力處理。

因為心裡的善法全失，只剩下不善法，所以這些人將一點自信都沒有

因為沒有清明的心，所以根本不善於處理人際關係、 工作、 家庭、 學業等各方面事情。

長此縱慾下去，有些人成為了社會的邊緣人，隱蔽青年等等的人。

大家上百度搜尋‘戒色吧’ ，有很多故事可以看的。

如果是中醫，有些學派會把一些縱慾的症狀說為‘腎虧’ ，並把縱慾或精液分泌液流失說為損耗生命精華，大大限制了一個人日後的發展、智力，甚至是壽命。

但這些學說似乎嚴重化了實際的問題，製造了恐慌。西醫精神科把這標籤為‘文化結合症候群’ ，因為唯獨在像中國等地方找到這樣的說法。並在診斷手冊ICD-10形容這些人有急性的焦慮，對精液或分泌液的流失生起恐懼。

如果是一般主流的中醫，並不會把此說到很嚴重的。

但始終縱慾並不是一件好事。

香港大學中醫藥學院院長馮奕斌教授就建議，如果是手淫的話，一個月不要超過一兩次.

有些慾望強的人聽到會覺得很難做到。但其實大部份人手淫的頻率比這個更少. 有研究人員對年齡十八歲或以上的美國人進行研究，然後發現有47.8% 受訪男士手淫的頻率比這個更少；女士則達90.9% (Herbenick et. al , 2022) 

西醫對此不會執著，但就算是比較執著的中醫，他們的權威--如馮教授--所給出的手淫頻率門檻；也應該很多人也能做到的。

做不到只是因為沒能找到替代的快樂。

佛陀曾形容，有比感官享樂更殊勝的快樂的，那就是禪定的快樂。

禪定並不是很難做的事。就如Ajahn Brahm 所教導，禪修者只需放鬆～到極點～放下～到極點～ 就算不專注任何東西，即能讓內心的平靜慢慢生起。

當定力增長時，延綿不斷的幸福感也會隨之緊隨。

劍橋畢業生（現已出家）Ajahn Brahm 甚至形容，禪定的快樂比性高潮好多了

這解釋了為什麼有人會甘願做和尚。那是因為有比性愛和感官享樂更巨大的快樂啊！

就如先前所說，有些中醫學說會把這些縱慾的問題說成斷頭般不可挽救的大問題；但事實上並不是這樣的。

一旦心中的定力生起，正念變得密集；聰明智慧將會顯現，應是非常短時間能做到的事。西醫也沒有研究顯示手淫或性愛直接導致中醫所謂的腎虧問題。

所以在戒色吧裡的大家不用擔心～很小事而已～

不知道在用百度的中國大陸網友能看見嗎？ 有勞大家轉載了😂

Some people are described as having "water in their brains," which sometimes is related to a specific issue.

"Water in the brain" is generally used to describe someone as foolish or unable to think clearly. 

Why does this happen? It’s because the mind is extremely muddied. The Buddha said in AN1.45 that a person with a muddied mind cannot know their own interests or those of others. Heavy  defilements also cloud the mind, leading to a decline in memory (AN5.193) and wisdom (AN5.51); it’s as if they are submerged in water. 😂

For teenagers, this is sometimes related to indulging in lust.

Online, it's seen that some people are quite over, immersing themselves in pornography and masturbation whenever they have free time. Those with partners may be even more extreme, having sex multiple times a day.

If indulgence reaches this level, the mind becomes extremely muddied, dark, and ignorant. It is heard that some people become very lazy due to the corrupted mind, neglecting daily affairs or lacking the ability to handle them. 

With all wholesome qualities lost and only unwholesome ones remaining, these individuals will have no confidence at all. 

Because of the unclear mind, they are not capable of managing interpersonal relationships, work, family, academics, and other areas of life. 

Continued indulgence can lead some to become marginalized members of society, hidden youths, and so on. You can search "戒色吧" (Abstinence Forum) on Baidu for many stories.

In Traditional Chinese Medicine, some schools attribute certain symptoms of sexual indulgence to "kidney deficiency," claiming that indulgence or the loss of seminal fluid depletes vital essence, greatly limiting a person’s future development, intelligence, and even lifespan.

However, these theories seem to exaggerate the actual problems and create panic. Western psychiatry labels this as "culture—related specific psychiatric syndromes," as such terms are found primarily in places like China. The ICD-10 diagnostic manual describes these individuals as experiencing acute anxiety and fear regarding the loss of semen or sexual secretions. However, mainstream Traditional Chinese Medicine does not take this issue too seriously.

Ultimately, indulgence is not a good thing. 

Professor Feng Yibin, the dean of the School of Chinese Medicine at the University of Hong Kong, suggests that for masturbation, it should not exceed once or twice a month. 

Some people with strong desires may find this difficult to achieve. In reality, most people masturbate even less frequently than this. Researchers conducted a study on Americans aged 18 and older and found that 47.8% of surveyed men masturbated so or less than this frequency, while for women, the figure was 90.9% (Herbenick et al., 2022).

Western medicine does not cling to this idea, but even among the more stringent Traditional Chinese Medicine, the thresholds set by authorities like Professor Feng should be achievable for many.

The inability to achieve this is merely due to not being able to find alternative higher pleasures. 

The Buddha described a happiness superior to sensual pleasures, which is the joy of meditation. Meditation is not something difficult to practice. As Ajahn Brahm teaches, meditators just need to relax~ to the max ~and let go~ to the max~ ; even without focusing on anything, inner peace will gradually arise. As stillness increases, continuous happiness will follow.

Ajahn Brahm, a Cambridge graduate (now a monk), even described the joy of meditation as much greater than sexual climax. 

This explains why some people willingly become monks; it’s because there is a happiness greater than sex and sensual pleasures!

As mentioned earlier, some Traditional Chinese medical theories may present issues of indulgence as irreparable problems; however, this is not the case. 

Once the mind's stillness arises and mindfulness becomes dense, wisdom will manifest, and this can be achieved in a very short time; and western medicine has no studies showing that masturbation or sexual activity directly leads to the so-called kidney deficiency issues.

So, for everyone in the Abstinence Forum, there’s no need to worry—it's only a minor issue! 

I wonder if those using Baidu in mainland China can see this? Everyone is welcome to share to there! 😂

就算進入一段愛情關係，沉溺性愛仍是不好的

例如在香港，慈善機構'母親的抉擇‘ 就估計每年香港都有5400宗青少年（15-24歲） 以外懷孕的個案

意外懷孕就是做事沒有深思熟慮的後果

當性慾和情慾蒙蔽理智，連避孕措施都懶得做

就如佛陀在AN1.45中所說，假如一個人的心渾濁，他將不知道自己的利益，他人的利益，和兩者的利益

絲毫沒有考慮到目前是否真的想要孩子

也沒有考慮到目前的經濟能力是否許可

也沒有考慮到萬一懷孕了要怎樣辦

如果是青少年意外懷孕，有許多仍是學生

只有兩個選擇：

1.墮胎，造下很大的殺人惡業

2.半工讀存錢養育小朋友/ 中途輟 學投身社會

就是因為被厚重的煩惱，而影響了一生或者往後許多生的軌跡

Even when entering a romantic relationship, indulging in sexual desire is still not good.

For example, in Hong Kong, the charity organization "Mother's Choice" estimates that there are about 5,400 cases of accidental pregnancies among teenagers (ages 15-24) each year.

Accidental pregnancies are the consequence of not thinking things through.

When sexual desire blinds reason, people may even neglect to use contraception. As the Buddha said in AN1.45, if a person's mind is defiled, they will not understand their own interests, the interests of others, or the interests of both.

There is no consideration of whether they truly want a child at that moment, nor of whether their current economic situation allows for it, and no thought about what to do in case of pregnancy.

For teenagers who accidentally become pregnant, many are still students, facing only two choices:

1.Abortion, which creates the bad karma of killing.

2.Work part-time to save money for raising the child or drop out of school and enter society.

It is heavy defilements that can affect the trajectory of this life or many future lives.

Image credit to the owner.

Data credit to 母親的抉擇 Mother's Choice 

這個世界沒有型男索女

只有白骨

There are no Sexy men and women

Only skeletons 

Men want to see women with their clothes off

But not with their skins off

男人想看女人脫衣服

但卻不想看她們脫皮

Image cred. To complete anatomy

型男索女一旦把牙剝掉，我們還想和他/她親密嗎？

Once a sexy man and lady takes of their teeth, do we still want to be intimate with them?

video cred. to @unilad

這是什麼？

應該沒有人親眼見過

這是我們的小腸

試想像一個性感美女或者猛男，開著血淋淋的肚子，抽著自己正串小腸走近我們，

我們還想和他或她親密嗎？ 

What is this?

No one should have seen this with their own eyes.

This is our small intestine.

Imagine a sexy woman or a muscular man walking toward us with a gory open belly, pulling out their own small intestine.

Would we still want to be intimate with them? 

Even among lay people,

for the sake of peace and happiness, lust must be restricted.

Imagine if we were women and someone looked at us with lust;

we would certainly be uncomfortable.

We would only feel that this person is lewd, sexual, and dirty,

and they would not be respected.

There are too many examples.

Online, there are often reports of couples being intimate in public places

and then exposed to the world.

I’ve heard of people who, after that, were recognized everywhere,

and their future was ruined.

Some celebrities have also faced ruin after being exposed for hiring prostitutes.

Any greed, hatred, or ignorance will lead to suffering.

To seek peace and happiness, we should restrict them,

or even uproot them entirely. 

就算是在家人

為求安樂，淫欲也是必須被限制的

試想想假如我們是女人，然後有人色迷迷地看著我們

想必也不會舒服

只會覺得這人很猥瑣、色情、骯髒

不會受人尊重的

有太多了

網上不時都會流傳一些情侶在公眾場所裡親密

然後被公諸於世

聽過有人自此以後都被人認住，前途盡毀

有些明星則去嫖妓，曝光後也沒了前途

任何貪嗔癡也會導向痛苦

欲求安樂，應當把它們加以限制，甚至連根拔起 

   美國精神科醫生Martin Paul Kafka 曾領導一個醫學研究。研究那些性反常行為的病人 （Kafka et al, 1994）

他們發現，那些手淫上癮、持續性亂交、依賴色情片的人；大部分都有比常人更多的情緒問題。包括持續的抑鬱症、焦慮症、社交恐懼症。

為什麼會這樣？

如果以心的角度來說，是很容易理解的。

性慾或者淫念屬於什麼？ 貪！

隆波帕默說：【如果我們的心是不善的，我們損耗的能量就會比較多。我們試著閉上眼睛，去看心工作，（心）不停地掙扎來、掙扎去的，會損耗能量。能感覺到嗎？有時候損耗能量比較多，有時候損耗能量比較少。】

這個掙扎就是Ajahn Brahm 所說的‘做‘ 了。 Ajahn Brahm 將心的狀態分為’做‘ 和純粹’知道‘ 兩部分。 Ajahn Brahm 說：【能量投入到‘做’上；當你在‘知道’上沒有任何剩餘的能量時，生活就會變得黑暗。這就像帶著一個電筒，電池快沒電了，所有的東西都變得暗淡和悲慘，你會感到不安和憤怒。】

當我們性上癮的時候，儲備在這個‘知道‘、這個心的能量快速損耗。當能量乾枯的時候，就看什麼都很黑暗、負面、失去希望、難以集中、沒有精力。這時就患上了抑鬱症了。

焦慮症也是。心沒有能量，心暗淡苦惱。當心苦的時候，佛陀說是不能定下來的（SN35.97）當心不滋潤沒有定力，就會不斷亂亂亂，擔心這樣擔心那樣，整個身體都很繃緊、不安。這個就是焦慮症了！

當一個人戒不好，佛陀說他將在大眾中沒有自信（AN5.213）。如果說得很細，就說根律儀戒。即我們的感官接觸到外境時有沒有生起貪或者嗔，喜歡還是不喜歡？如果沒有守護好心，生起了煩惱，這個就稱之為沒有戒。但這比較微細。就這個角度而言，我們性上癮、沉迷性愛的時候，心是沒有戒的。當沒有戒，心也必不能定下來。於是就會失去了光明，充滿灰暗，沒自信、很怕人了。這個稱為社交恐懼症

很容易解決而已～打坐就行了

Ajahn Brahm 教導，我們什麼都不用專注，只是放鬆到極點，放下到極點，什麼都不做，不控制、和一切和平共處，那麼定力就此生起。能量和喜悅就慢慢在這個心、這個知道中堆積。

當能量夠，一切問題都解決了。不再社交恐懼、不再焦慮、不再抑鬱。而且也不想要性愛了，因為從禪修所得到的快樂，更延綿不斷、更滋潤、更幸福。

American psychiatrist Martin Paul Kafka once led a medical study on patients with sexual addiction related problems (Kafka et al., 1994).

They found that those addicted to masturbation, engaging in persistent promiscuity, and relying on pornography often had more emotional problems than the average person, including chronic depression, anxiety disorders, and social phobia. Why is this the case?

From a psychological perspective, it is easy to understand.

What do sexual desire or lust belong to? Greed!

Lung por pramote once said: "If our mind are unwholesome, we expend more energy. When we try to close our eyes and observe the mind at work, we see the mind constantly struggling back and forth, which consumes energy. Can you feel it? Sometimes the energy expenditure is greater, and sometimes it is less."

This struggle is what Ajahn Brahm refers to as 'doing.' Ajahn Brahm divides the state of the mind into 'doing' and pure 'knowing.' He said: "Energy is invested in 'doing'; when you have no remaining energy for 'knowing,' life becomes dark. It’s like carrying a flashlight with a dying battery; everything becomes dim and miserable, and you feel uneasy and angry."

When we are addicted to sex, the reserves of this 'knowing,' this energy of the heart, are rapidly depleted. When energy runs dry, everything appears dark, negative, hopeless, difficult to concentrate, and lacking in vitality. At this point, depression sets in.

The same goes for anxiety. The mind lacks energy and feels dim and troubled. When the mind is suffering, the Buddha said it cannot settle or get still (SN35.97). When the mind is not nourished and lacks stability, it will keep getting agitated, worrying about this and that, causing the whole body to feel tense and uneasy. This is anxiety disorder!

When a person have poor precepts, the Buddha said he will lack confidence in public (AN5.213). To be stricter , this refers to the precepts concerning sense faculties. When our senses come into contact with external objects, does greed or aversion arise? Do we like or dislike? If we do not guard the mind and allow defilements to arise, this is called lacking precepts. But this is quite subtle. From this perspective, when we are addicted to sex and indulge in sexual behavior, the heart lacks precepts. Without precepts, the mind cannot settle. Thus, one loses brightness, feels gloomy, lacks confidence, and becomes fearful of others. This is called social phobia.

It’s easy to resolve—just meditate!

Ajahn Brahm teaches that we do not need to focus on anything; we just need to relax to the max, let go to the max, do nothing, control nothing, and coexist peacefully with everything. Then stillness arises. Energy and joy will slowly accumulate in this heart, this knowing.

When energy is sufficient, all problems are resolved. No more sociophobia , fear, no more anxiety, no more depression. Moreover, there will be no desire for sexual activity, because the happiness derived from meditation is more continuous, nourishing, and fulfilling. 

在俄烏戰事中，有個趣聞是這樣的：

有些黑客在Telegram 等偽造社交平台偽造烏克蘭美女帳戶，成功誘騙烏克蘭東南部城鎮梅利托波爾(Melitopol)的俄軍。

這些黑客偽裝成烏國美女跟俄軍交談、做朋友，以了解他們，最後說服他們上傳在前線的照片。

克內什指，這些俄軍滿腦子都是「上床」，於是發了一堆照片給「美女」，以證明他們是貨真價實的俄國士兵。黑客從照片辨認出他們在梅利托波爾附近軍事基地的位置，再將相關資料傳給烏軍，幾天後，該處的俄軍基地就被轟炸。

同樣地，一旦我們容許任何的貪嗔癡在心中滋長

那就是容許我們的弱點在心中滋長

在暴露我們的弱點

任何聰明沒智慧的人一旦捕捉到我們的弱點

就可以加以利用

把我們炸到體無完膚 

In the Russia-Ukraine war, there is an interesting anecdote:
Some hackers created fake accounts of Ukrainian beauties on social platforms like Telegram, successfully deceiving Russian soldiers in the southeastern town of Melitopol.

These hackers posed as Ukrainian women, engaging in conversations and making friends with the Russian soldiers to learn more about them, ultimately convincing them to upload photos from the front lines.

Knezh noted that these Russian soldiers were preoccupied with "hooking up," so they sent a series of photos to the "beauties" to prove they were genuine Russian soldiers. The hackers identified their location near a military base in Melitopol from the photos, then relayed the information to the Ukrainian army. A few days later, that Russian military base was bombed.

Similarly, once we allow any greed, hatred, or delusion to grow in our hearts,
we are permitting our weaknesses to fester within us,
exposing our vulnerabilities.

Once any person detects our weaknesses,
they can exploit them,
devastate us completely

《沒眼珠的美女》

如果告訴大家，這位美女將手移開後

張開眼，然後發現她沒有眼珠，

只有眼窩看著我們，您覺得怎樣？

同樣地，我們愛到如痴如醉的性感美女

一旦沒了眼珠，就會嚇到我們腿抖撒尿

我們只是愛上不同骯髒器官合在一起的組合體而已

一旦變得聰明，看到真相，我們連碰到不想碰她們 

"The Beauty Without Eyeballs"

What if I told everyone that

when this beauty removes her hands and opens her eyes, she has no eyeballs, just eye sockets looking at us? What would you think?

Similarly, the seductive beauty we adore so passionately—once she loses her eyeballs, it would scare us to the point of trembling and peeing uncontrollably.

We are merely enamored with a combination of different dirty organs. Once we become wise and see the truth, we wouldn’t even want to touch them.

This hero is called Lin Shenghe.

Is everyone's first reaction to laugh at him?

In fact, he is doing something very great.

He established a Facebook group specifically to document his journey of abstaining from lustful behaviors while promoting the cessation of indulgent sexual actions and thoughts. The group now has about 30,000 members.

What theory does he use is not important ---Traditional Chinese medicine, Buddhism, theology, psychology—none of these theories matter; the goal is to reduce unwholesome qualities, lower indulgent behaviors, and promote wholesome qualities.

People in the world might find it quite embarrassing.

However, according to the laws of nature, he is doing something very good, which is a significant act of merits.

To withstand the judgment and ridicule of others, and to fearlessly advocate for abstaining from lust, isn’t that heroic?

While others laugh at him for being too eccentric, nature laughs at those who do not know

這位英雄叫林昇和

誒大家見到第一個反應是笑他嗎？

他其實在做一件很偉大的事情

他建立了一個facebook 群組，專門記錄自己的戒色歷程，同時弘揚淫逸行為，淫念的戒絕，現在群組有大概3萬人。

用什麼理論：中醫、佛學、神學、心理學---什麼理論並不重要，目的就是為了讓人的不善法降低，淫法降低，善法提升

世間的人會覺得很讓人尷尬

但如果依照大自然法則來說，他在做一件很好的事情，是很大的善業和功德來的

能夠抵得過別人的眼光和嘲笑，無畏地推揚戒淫，還不是英雄？

別人笑他太瘋癲，大自然笑別人看不穿

當我們愛上一個美女時

實際上是愛上了一個老太婆

當我們追求一個美女時

實際上是在追求一個老太婆

When we fall in love with a beautiful woman,
we are actually falling in love with an old woman.

When we pursue a beautiful woman,
we are actually pursuing an old woman.

"Is There No Problem with Lust Between Couples?"

I have a fellow practitioner I used to practice with. He looked into past lives and found that he had once fallen into hell. What was the reason for his descent into hell?

When he recalled that past life, at the moment of death, he couldn't help but think of his wife. Even as he was dying, he was still focused on that, desiring sexual activity, and he experienced an extremely intense desire—not an ordinary one, but a very strong one.

It is his wife! mind you, he was not someone involved in sexual misconduct; it was a lawful relationship, okay according to the Five Precepts.

However, with such a strong desire, he fell into hell. Afterward, he was reborn as an animal and then returned to the human realm.

What am I trying to convey? Even if it's legitimate lust, if it arises at the moment of your death, it can still lead to suffering realms.

it is legitimate lust , a lawful marriage. If, at the moment of death, you are thinking about that, you could also fall into the realms of sufferings, or else into the animal realm, or even hell. These two realms are most likely. It is simply lust! not unlawful lust!

So, if you understand this, you'll know that if you want yourlife to be secure, you must overcome these causes of suffering.

--- Venerable Mangala

23-2-2024

《夫妻之間的淫欲沒有問題嗎？》

我有一個以前一起修的同修，他看看看過去世，他有一世掉落地獄。掉入地獄的原因是什麼？

他在他看回以前的一世，他在臨終的時候，好想不想，他想起他的妻子。要死了，還是想著那回事，還想性行為，而且起了很強很強的慾望，不是一般的強，非常強的慾望。

妻子哦，不是邪淫哦。合法哦，在五戒裡面Ok哦。

但是就帶著那麼強的慾望，掉入地獄。之後當了畜生，再回來。

我要講的是什麼？就算是正淫，假如在你臨終的時候出現，都是下苦界。

正淫哦，是合法夫妻。假如在臨終的時候想著那回事，也是會下苦界，不然就是畜生界，不然就是地獄道。這兩界最有可能----淫，其實不是邪淫，是淫。

所以你這樣子了解的話，你會知道，假如我希望我的生命有保障，這些苦因我要克服

---吉祥尊者

23-2-2024

貪

如果我們細心留意自己的心，其實是一種魔性、沉重、痕癢的能量

不論我們貪名譽、貪財富、貪地位、貪權力、貪人、鹹濕（淫）、貪禪定、貪功德

那個狀態都一樣，都讓我們內心感到不適，破壞我們內心的清爽、飽滿和喜悅

所以任何有智慧的人都會努力剷除它

成功把貪欲根除的人就是阿羅漢

If we carefully observe our own minds, greed is actually a demonic, heavy, and itching energy

Whether we crave fame, wealth, status, power, people, lust , meditative bliss, or merit— 

The state of mind is the same: it makes us feel uneasy inside, destroying our inner clarity, fullness, and joy 

That’s why any wise person strives to uproot it. 

Those who completely eradicate greed are the arahants (fully enlightened beings). 

如果我們未是阿羅漢，要對利益、 恭敬、 名聲這些極度小心,死人的!

佛陀說啊, 就好像生了皮膚病的老狐狸那樣,無論他去到哪裡:空屋、樹下、露地--他都不快樂

同樣地,如果我們被利益、 恭敬、 名聲這些東西完全佔據心,就算我們去到哪裡,我們都不會快樂的

佛陀教導修行人,要在內心捨棄它們,除去對它們的執著,不要讓它們持續佔據心(Ref. SN17.8)

如果我們想有良好的精神健康,想開心,就不要對它們有任何興趣.讓它們自己來自己去,不要把任何東西當為'我的' 

大家現在想像一下,假如全世界的人都指罵我們,說我們是非;我們會怎樣? 要精神失常了嗎?

假如全世界的人都當我們狗,吐我們口水;我們會怎樣? 要跳樓了嗎?

假如我們傾家蕩產,一無所有,要淪落街頭;我們會怎樣? 要自殺了嗎?

大家看!這就是貪圖利益、 恭敬、 名聲的危險與下場

除非我們能夠不執著這一切,保持穩固的精神健康

不然的話,死人的!

Warning! Unless We're Arahants, We Must Be Extremely Careful About Gains, Honors, and Fame!

The Buddha said it's like a mangy old fox with skin disease—no matter where it goes (empty houses, under trees, open fields), it finds no happiness.

Similarly, when our minds are completely consumed by gains, honors, and fame, we’ll never be happy anywhere we go.

The Buddha taught practitioners to renounce these internally, uproot attachment to them, and never let them dominate the mind (Ref. SN 17.8).

If we want true mental well-being and happiness, we must lose all interest in them. Let them come and go—don’t claim anything as "mine."

Now imagine:

What if the whole world slanders us, spreads rumors? Would we go insane?

What if everyone treated us like dogs, spat on us? Would we jump off a building?

What if we lost everything and became homeless? Would we kill ourselves?

Look! This is the danger and consequence of craving gains, honors, and fame.

Unless we can remain detached and mentally unshaken, we’re doomed!

儘管我們可能朋友眾多、親友眾多

但要認知到一個事實，就是我們其實是 one man's team😂😂

來出生，本來就是一個人的事

沿途遇上許多人，

幼稚園、小學、中學、大學、出來工作、退休後

曾經親密的，有許多都成為了陌生人了

父母遲早會死去

當我們死去時，老婆兒女也要離我們而去

這不是一件慘情的事。

而是就如一件事情牽涉太多人，每個人都有自己的意見，

這個人要給面子，那個人又要給面子，

要遷就這個，又要遷就那個

搞不好就會吵大架，搞出一場大龍鳳

如果自己一人，就沒人可以煩我們😂

同樣地，如果我們的心向太多人攀緣，執著太多人

這個人又要給面子，那個人又要給面子

又要和這個人玩，又要和那個人吃飯

這個人要哄，那個又要哄

只會徒添內心的煩惱、混亂和壓力，拖垮我們的修行

當我們的心越來越提升，實際上便越來越難和世間糾纏在一起

縱使和許多人共處在一起，但心是全然的獨立

雖然是one man's team , 但是是幸福的one man's team , 因為內心被禪悅的幸福所充滿

所以以戒定慧提升心比和任何人事物混在一起更加有意義

We may have many friends and relatives, but we must recognize one truth: we're ultimately a one-man team. 😂😂

We came into this world alone. 

Along the way, we meet many people— 

in kindergarten, primary school, secondary school, university, at work, after retirement... 

Yet many who were once close have become strangers. 

Our parents will eventually pass away. 

When we die, even our spouses and children must leave us. 

This isn’t tragic. 

Think of it like this: when too many people are involved, everyone has their own opinions. 

We have to save face for this person, accommodate that one, 

please this one, compromise with that one... 

Before we know it, arguments erupt, and drama unfolds. 

But if we're on our own, no one can bother us. 😂 

Similarly, if our mind clings to too many people— 

constantly saving face, socializing, 

dining with this one, entertaining that one, 

soothing egos here and there— 

it only breeds mental chaos, stress, and hinders our practice. 

As our minds elevate, we naturally disentangle from worldly attachments. 

Even surrounded by others, the mind remains utterly independent. 

Yes, we're a one-man team—but a **happy** one-man team, 

because our minds are filled with the bliss of stillness. 

Cultivating virtue, stillness, and wisdom (sīla, samādhi, paññā) 

is far more meaningful than getting entangled with anyone or anything." 

貪真癡啊！

我們一貪某些東西，立刻就造成內心的包袱和壓力了。

更不用說當我們求不得或失去了他們的時候，我們必然會痛苦流淚

Greed, indeed, is folly!

The moment we crave something, it instantly becomes a burden and pressure on our hearts.

And when we fail to obtain it—or worse, lose it—suffering and tears are inevitable.

就如這位女生，

一放假，就放下所有工作不管了，

直接去旅行

因為旅行更開心

同樣地，

我們也應放下對身心的執著

直接去涅槃

因為極樂的涅槃比不斷輪迴受苦更開心

See how this woman

drops all her work the moment vacation comes,

and goes straight to traveling—

because traveling brings her more joy.

In the same way,

we should let go of all clinging to body and mind

and go straight to Nibbāna,

for the bliss of Nibbāna is far greater

than the endless suffering of saṃsāra.

蓮藕斷開後，總是有些絲還會連在一起

這是一般人， 對於某些東西仍然依依不捨

然而，藕斷絲連的不是佛教徒

對財富的執著，斬！

對名譽的執著，斬！

對地位的執著，斬！

對權力的執著，斬！

對人的執著，斬！

對身體的執著，斬！

對心的執著，斬！

斬到一乾二淨！

所以沒有人，沒有東西可以束縛到佛教徒…

image cred. To 抖音百科

When a lotus root is broken, some threads still remain connected.

This is like ordinary people, still clinging to certain things with reluctance to let go.

However, Buddhists do not have these lingering attachments.

Attachment to wealth? Cut it off!

Attachment to fame? Cut it off!

Attachment to status? Cut it off!

Attachment to power? Cut it off!

Attachment to people? Cut it off!

Attachment to the body? Cut it off!

Attachment to the mind? Cut it off!

Sever them all completely!

Thus, no person, no thing can bind a Buddhist...

Image credit: Douyin Encyclopedia

這就是修行好的人

無論誰怎樣對他們好，怎樣愛他們；他們都不會執著，都不會起任何煩惱

始終保持平靜和喜悅 

These are the people who practice well.

No matter how good others treat them or love them, they do not cling and do not become defiled.

They always maintain a sense of calm and joy. 

謝霆鋒的刀聲此起彼落，

斬蔥斬得乾淨利落

同樣地，佛教徒的刀聲也此起彼落

斬煩惱斬得乾淨利落

有什麼執著現前：對人、對金錢、對名譽、對地位、對權力、對美貌、對智慧

一下子就把它們斬斷，成就這顆清淨的心

Nicholas Tse's knife sounds rise and fall,

Chopping scallions with clean and swift movements.

Similarly, the knife sounds of Buddhists also rise and fall,

Chopping away defilements with clean and swift movements.

Whenever attachments arise: to people, to money, to fame, to status, to power, to beauty,  to wisdom,

Immediately cut them off, achieving this pure heart.

video cred. to :

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b6w9_up3IBM

We are all blinded by our bad kamma,
which is why we can never find happiness and are always entangled with suffering.

Happiness is actually very simple: it is about relaxing and letting go.

When Por Khao Wanchart Yimme realized the third stage of the Dharma, he went to visit Luang Pu Kuang.
Luang Pu Kuang said that Por Khao's mind was already 'sabai' (comfortable), with just a little left.

The realization of the Dharma is about different levels of letting go.
How comfortable and happy it is to relax and let go!

Therefore, if anyone wants to be happy, there is no other choice; they must relax and let go.

我們都被惡業所蒙蔽，

因此總是找不到快樂，總是和痛苦糾纏

快樂其實非常簡單，就是放鬆～放下～

當Por Khao Wanchart Yimme 體證到第三階段的法後，他去拜訪Luang Pu Kuang。

Luang Pu Kwang 便說 Por Khao 已經 "sabai" (舒適) 了，只剩下一點點

佛法的體證就是不同放下程度的體證

放下和放鬆是多麼舒服和快樂啊！

因此如果誰人想快樂，沒有別的選擇，一定要放鬆～放下～

我們都被惡業所蒙蔽，

因此總是找不到快樂，總是和痛苦糾纏

快樂其實非常簡單，就是放鬆～放下～

當Por Khao Wanchart Yimme 體證到第三階段的法後，他去拜訪Luang Pu Kuang。

Luang Pu Kwang 便說 Por Khao 已經 "sabai" (舒適) 了，只剩下一點點

佛法的體證就是不同放下程度的體證

放下和放鬆是多麼舒服和快樂啊！

因此如果誰人想快樂，沒有別的選擇，一定要放鬆～放下～

We are all blinded by our bad kamma,
which is why we can never find happiness and are always entangled with suffering.

Happiness is actually very simple: it is about relaxing and letting go.

When Por Khao Wanchart Yimme realized the third stage of the Dharma, he went to visit Luang Pu Kuang.
Luang Pu Kuang said that Por Khao's mind was already 'sabai' (comfortable), with just a little left.

The realization of the Dharma is about different levels of letting go.
How comfortable and happy it is to relax and let go!

Therefore, if anyone wants to be happy, there is no other choice; they must relax and let go.

一些新移民給社會鄙視和厭惡，為什麼會這樣？

因為他們只懂得從新的地方中索取、 找著數；而從不付出

同樣地，假如我們只懂得從別人身上索取、佔便宜，而從不付出

我們一樣會給所有人鄙視和厭惡

Why do some new immigrants face disdain and dislike from society?

It’s because they only know how to take and seek benefits from their new surroundings, without ever giving out.

Similarly, if we only know how to take advantage of others without contributing, we too will be met with disdain and dislike from everyone.

跑步比賽中，每個人都有專屬的跑道

大家一起起跑，看似不孤單。

但如果越過了自己跑道的範圍，就會遭到處分

每個人步伐都不同，所以終究還是孤身一人

同樣地，人生旅程中，每個人都有屬於自己的路要走

大家一起生活、 一起聚會，看似不孤單

但假如心越過了自己的範圍，黏著別人、 執著別人，就會遭到大自然的處分。

什麼處分？ 那就是憂愁、 悲哀、 苦惱、 擔憂

就如佛陀所說，內心的渴愛就是造成痛苦的原因

每個人都有自己的業力、 自己的條件，每個人都不同；所以終究還是孤身一人

是時候要面對這個現實了～

In a running competition, everyone has their own designated lane.

Everyone starts together, it seems like no one is alone.

But if someone crosses the boundaries of their own lane, they will face penalties.

Each person's pace is different, so ultimately, we are still alone.

Similarly, in the journey of life, everyone has their own path to walk.

We live together and gather together, which seems like we are not alone.

But if our minds cross their own boundaries, clinging to others or being attached to others, we will face  penalties from the nature

What are these penalties? They are sorrow, sadness, distress, and worry.

As the Buddha said, the craving in the heart is the source of suffering.

Everyone has their own karma and conditions; everyone is different; thus, in the end, we are still alone.

It’s time to face this reality.

在郊外，通常那些顏色特別鮮豔的菇，就是有劇毒的菇

同樣地，那些特別惹人喜歡的人事物，都是含有劇毒的

為什麼？

佛陀說：對於那些惹人喜愛的東西，因為變異而生起憂愁、 悲傷、 苦惱、 絕望--這就是結果（AN5.30)

In the countryside, those mushrooms that are particularly vibrant in color are usually the most poisonous.

Similarly, those people and things that are especially appealing are the most poisonous

Why ?

The Buddha said ,  'with regard to those desirable things, bringing about sorrow, sadness, suffering, and despair due to their impermanence—is the result. (AN 5.30)

我們死死追求名譽、地位、權力、財富、美女、貴子、美貌

知道頂峰是什麼嗎？

頂峰就是佛陀😂

佛陀還是王子時娶來了絕佳美女作為妻子， 也有許多漂亮的宮女。 還生下了兒子羅睺羅

成佛後獲得最高的名譽、地位、權力，受盡人類和天神的尊敬 。 獲得了最多的供養和最高的感官享受。 人人見到佛陀的樣貌都感到喜歡。 兒子也成為了大阿羅漢。

那是作為人類的最高成就

然而佛陀卻告訴我們這些全部都是苦來的。 因為無常而苦，因為無法掌控而苦

佛陀說他寧願不要名利， 他要的是隨心所欲享受出離之樂、覺悟之樂（AN4.30)

我們死死追求這些，但達到頂峰的佛陀卻看到這一切的過患，而對這些沒有絲毫執著和興趣。

一個失敗者告訴我們這些都沒有意義，我們會笑他吃不到的葡萄是酸的。

但現在人生勝利組卻告訴我們這些都沒有意義，這就真的是真的了

如果我們還對這些那麼貪婪和執著， 我們是否傻了呢？

We tirelessly pursue fame, status, power, wealth, beautiful women, prestigious children, and good look.

Do you know what the pinnacle is?

The pinnacle is the Buddha. 😂

When the Buddha was still a prince, he married an exceptional beauty and had many beautiful palace attendants. He also had a son named Rahula.

After becoming enlightened, he attained the highest fame, status, and power, receiving the respect of both humans and deities. He enjoyed the greatest offerings and the highest sensual pleasures. Everyone who saw the Buddha's appearance felt joy. His son also became a great Arahant.

That is the highest achievement as a human.

However, the Buddha told us that all of these are suffering. It is suffering because of impermanence, and suffering because of uncontrollability.

The Buddha said he would rather not have fame and offerings from others; what he wanted was to enjoy the  joy of solitude and the joy of awakening at will (AN4.30).

We fervently pursue these things, but the Buddha, having reached the pinnacle, saw all the drawbacks of these  and held no attachment or interest in them.

A failure tells us that all of these are meaningless, and we laugh at him, saying the grapes he can't reach are sour.

But now, the one who has succeeded in life tell us that all of these are meaningless, so we know  that it is truly the case.

If we are still so greedy and attached to these things, aren't we foolish? 

怎樣看我們受不受得起一樣東西？

就看我們得到那樣東西後，會否自大和因為執著而狂喜

假如我們追到一位環球小姐做女朋友，或者成為總統，或者成為大富豪，或者成為高官，或者成為公開考試的狀元，或者在全球比賽中奪冠，或者得到一個孝順的兒子，或者得到一個非常要好的朋友

但是我們覺得自己比人好、 因執著而狂喜。那我們就受不起那樣東西了。

為什麼？因為一得到，我們就生起煩惱。生起煩惱等於生起痛苦。

一旦我們因為一件事而生起痛苦，那表示我們受不起。

我們因為得到而變得更差了

還有另一個角度可以審視。

就是看看我們在經歷得到的相反時，會否自卑和因執著而悲傷生氣。

假如我們被人說是非，或者貧窮，或者被人輕視，或者沒有朋友，或者地位低，或者沒有權勢，或者生病時

我們覺得自己比人差、 因執著而痛苦。

那一樣表示我們受不起和此相反的美好東西。

我們被人說是非時就受不了，這表示我們有好名譽時一樣會有很多煩惱，很痛苦

我們貧窮時受不了，這表示我們富有時一樣會有很多煩惱，很痛苦

我們被人輕視時受不了，這表示我們被人尊重時一樣會有很多煩惱，很痛苦

我們沒有朋友時就受不了，這表示我們有好朋友時一樣會有很多煩惱，很痛苦

我們地位低時就受不了，這表示我們地位高時一樣會有很多煩惱，很痛苦

我們沒有權勢時就受不了，這表示我們有權勢時一樣會有很多煩惱，很痛苦

我們生病時受不了，這表示我們健康時一樣會有很多煩惱，很痛苦

我們經歷好時，一定會相同程度地自大和因執著而狂喜

一旦生起煩惱，就等於生起痛苦

我們因此而變得更差

所以我們受不起

How do we determine whether we are eligible to something?

It depends on whether we become arrogant and ecstatic due to attachment after obtaining that thing. 

For example, if we successfully date a Miss Universe, become a president, become a millionaire, hold a high office, become a top scorer in public examinations, win a global competition, have a filial son, or gain a very good friend—but if we start to feel superior and become ecstatic due to attachment, then we are not eligible to that thing.

Why? Because once we obtain it, we generate defilements. 

Generating defilements equals generating suffering. 

If we experience suffering because of something, it shows we are not eligible to it.

There’s another perspective to consider. 

We can look at whether we feel inferior and become sad or angry due to attachment when experiencing the opposite of gain.

For instance, if we are criticized, impoverished, looked down upon, friendless, low in status, powerless, or ill, and we feel worse than others and suffer due to attachment, it indicates we also are not eligible to  these positive things.

If we cannot endure criticism, it shows that having a good reputation can also lead to many defilements and suffering. 

If we cannot endure poverty, it indicates that wealth can also bring many defilements and suffering. 

If we cannot bear being looked down upon, it suggests that being respected can similarly lead to many defilements and suffering. 

If we cannot tolerate being friendless, it implies that having good friends can also result in many defilements and suffering. 

If we cannot stand being low in status, it indicates that being high in status can likewise bring many defilements and suffering. 

If we cannot endure a lack of power, it shows that having power can also lead to many defilements and suffering. 

If we cannot tolerate illness, it suggests that being healthy can similarly bring many defilements and suffering.

When we experience good things, we will inevitably become equally arrogant and ecstatic due to attachment. 

Once defilements arise, it equals suffering arising. 

As a result, we become worse off.

Therefore, we are not eligible to it.

八爪魚就很多隻手，但一旦他抓起了燃燒的鐵球，他就會極端痛苦

同樣地，世間的一切就是燃燒的鐵球

一旦我們的心抓起了任何東西，必然會因此而苦

它們是熱球，因為它們不斷改變、 無法掌控、 抓著它們只會對內心構成壓力

The octopus has many arms, but once it grabs burning iron balls, it will be in extreme pain.

Similarly, everything in the world is like burning iron balls. 

Once our hearts cling to anything, it will inevitably suffer.

They are hot balls because they constantly change, are uncontrollable, and holding onto them only creates stress in our hearts

這隻鳥吃到了餌，卻不墮入陷阱中

真是聰明啊！

我們有沒有像他那樣聰明？

我們獲得了世間一切美好的事物：財富、 名譽、 地位、 權力、 美女、 兒女....

然而我們不執著它們為‘我的’。當不執著它們，就不會被它們所束縛。雖然擁有卻不會構成內心的壓力。

這就像鳥兒吃到了餌，卻不墮入陷阱中

我們獲得了世間一切美好的事物：財富、 名譽、 地位、 權力、 美女、 兒女....

我們卻執著它們為‘我的’。當執著它們，就被它們所束縛。擁有的同時卻造成內心的壓力、 不安和痛苦

這就像鳥兒吃餌的同時卻墮入陷阱中，被獵人宰割

This bird managed to eat the bait without falling into the trap.
How clever!

Are we as smart as it?

We acquire all the beautiful things in the world: wealth, fame, status, power, beauty, children...
However, we do not cling to them as "mine." When we are not attached, we are not bound by them. Although we possess them, they do not create pressure in our hearts.
This is like the bird eating the bait without falling into the trap.

We acquire all the beautiful things in the world: wealth, fame, status, power, beauty, children...
Yet we cling to them as "mine." When we are attached, we are bound by them. Possessing them creates pressure, unease, and suffering within.
This is like the bird that, while eating the bait, falls into the trap and is caught by the hunter.

怎樣可以讓一個人開心？

看他執著什麼。

如果他執著自己的美貌，我們就誠懇地讚美他的美貌；然後他就會飛上天了

如果他執著自己的財富，我們就誠懇地讚美他的富有；然後他就會飛上天了

如果他執著自己的地位，我們就誠懇地讚美他的地位；然後他就會飛上天了

如果他執著自己的權力，我們就誠懇地讚美他的權力；然後他就會飛上天了

如果他執著自己的名譽，我們就誠懇地讚美他的名譽；然後他就會飛上天了

如果他執著自己的布施，我們就誠懇地讚美他的布施；然後他就會飛上天了

如果他執著自己的德行，我們就誠懇地讚美他的德行；然後他就會飛上天了

如果他執著自己的禪修，我們就誠懇地讚美他的禪修；然後他就會飛上天了

如果他執著自己的聰明智慧，我們就誠懇地讚美他的聰明智慧；然後他就會飛上天了

但請大家小心，因為聰明人可以讓我們瞬間下地獄：

如果我們執著自己的美貌，他們就說我們很醜；然後我們就會下地獄了

如果我們執著自己的財富，他們就說我們很窮；然後我們就會下地獄了

如果我們執著自己的地位，他們就說我們地位很低賤；然後我們就會下地獄了

如果我們執著自己的權力，他們就說我們勢力很弱；然後我們就會下地獄了

如果我們執著自己的名譽，他們就說我們是非；然後我們就會下地獄了

如果我們執著自己的布施，他們就說我們很吝嗇；然後我們就會下地獄了

如果我們執著自己的德行，他們就說我們很沒品；然後我們就會下地獄了

如果我們執著自己的禪修，他們就說我們修得很不好；然後我們就會下地獄了

如果我們執著自己的聰明智慧，他們就說我們很蠢；然後我們就會下地獄了

所以如果我們容許執著在內心滋生，是很傻的事。

就像魚兒跳出水面後，任鷹、 貓兒、 人類宰割

How can we make a person happy?

Look at what they are attached to.
If they are attached to their beauty, we sincerely praise their beauty; then they will soar to the sky.
If they are attached to their wealth, we sincerely praise their richness; then they will soar to the sky.
If they are attached to their status, we sincerely praise their position; then they will soar to the sky.
If they are attached to their power, we sincerely praise their authority; then they will soar to the sky.
If they are attached to their reputation, we sincerely praise their fame; then they will soar to the sky.
If they are attached to their generosity, we sincerely praise their giving; then they will soar to the sky.
If they are attached to their virtue, we sincerely praise their moral character; then they will soar to the sky.
If they are attached to their meditation, we sincerely praise their practice; then they will soar to the sky.
If they are attached to their intelligence, we sincerely praise their wisdom; then they will soar to the sky.

But everyone, be careful, because clever people can send us straight to hell:
If we are attached to our beauty, they will say we are ugly; then we will fall to hell.
If we are attached to our wealth, they will say we are poor; then we will fall to hell.
If we are attached to our status, they will say our position is lowly; then we will fall to hell.
If we are attached to our power, they will say our influence is weak; then we will fall to hell.
If we are attached to our reputation, they will say we are gossiped about; then we will fall to hell.
If we are attached to our generosity, they will say we are stingy; then we will fall to hell.
If we are attached to our virtue, they will say we have no class; then we will fall to hell.
If we are attached to our meditation, they will say we practice poorly; then we will fall to hell.
If we are attached to our intelligence, they will say we are foolish; then we will fall to hell.

So, allowing attachments to grow in our hearts is a foolish thing.

It’s like a fish jumping out of water, only to be slaughtered by eagles, cats, or humans.

有一個故事是這樣的。

曾經有一個小女孩，她非常喜歡吃榴蓮的

她的父母為了滿足她，就天天都給她吃榴蓮。每當她想吃時，父母就給她吃

過了好像一個月多些，她一見到榴蓮已經要作嘔了

過了幾十年後，她仍然對榴蓮有恐懼.....

慾望是很狡猾的，不斷指揮我們要這樣要那樣

我們以為得到了後會快樂？

結了婚的人，想想我們談了多少次戀愛吧。

每次我們都把那位女孩子或男孩子當作是宇宙中最重要的人

當把他/她追到手後

日對夜對，終究分手收場了。場場戀愛也是這樣

到現在結婚了，有小孩了；真的如先前想像般幸福嗎？

別傻了，世間就是這樣

我們得到了這樣夢寐以求的東西後，過了一會兒又厭倦，想要其他東西了

得到了那樣東西後，又厭倦了；又想要其他東西了

唯一讓人永不厭倦的快樂，是禪定所帶來的快樂，涅槃所帶來的快樂

Luang ta siri 形容涅槃為永恆的快樂

There is a story like this:

There was once a little girl who loved to eat durian. 

To satisfy her, her parents gave her durian every day. 

Whenever she wanted it, they would provide it. 

After about a month, just the sight of durian made her nauseous. 

Even decades later, she still had a fear for durian.

Desire is very cunning, constantly urging us to want this and that. 

We think that once we obtain what we desire, we will be happy.

For those who are married, think about how many times we've been in love. 

Each time, we treated that boy or girl as the most important person in the universe. 

Yet, after winning their affection, day after day, we eventually broke up. 

All our relationships ended this way. 

Now that we are married with children, are we truly as happy as we once imagined?

Don’t be foolish; this is how the world works. 

After obtaining something we long for, we quickly grow bored and want something else.

Once we get that new thing, we become tired of it too, and seek yet another desired objects.

The only joy that never grows tiresome is the happiness that comes from stillness and the bliss of nibanna. 

Luang Ta Siri describes nibanna as highest eternal happiness.

渴愛、 渴愛

真是形容得好

渴愛就是心的口渴、 不舒服

喝了一杯水，口渴就被暫時壓制

得到了想要的東西，渴愛就暫時消失

但不久，又口渴了

不久，又想要其他東西了

永無止境、 永不滿足，真是讓人厭煩，對嗎？

如果我們永不口渴，好嗎？

如果有方法讓我們的心永不飢渴，想要嗎？

噢～這就是八聖道了

Craving is the thirst of the heart, an uncomfortable feeling.
Drinking a glass of water temporarily suppresses the thirst.
Similarly, when we get what we want, the craving temporarily disappears.

But soon, the thirst of our body returns.
Similarly, before long, our mind desire other things again.
It’s endless and never satisfying—truly annoying, right?

What if we never felt thirsty? Would that be good?
If there were a way to keep our hearts from ever being thirsty, would you want that?
Oh—this is the Noble Eightfold Path!

杯子和牙籤哪一個較重？

拿起的那個較重

同樣地，一個國家和一個小家庭，哪一個較重？

被我們執著的那個較重～ 

Which is heavier, a cup or a toothpick?

The one we pick up is heavier.

Similarly, which is heavier, a country or a small family?

The one we are attached to is heavier~

就如一個殺手走進一間滿佈濃煙、 完全看不清一切的大屋。他派人守著門口，然後在屋子裡亂刀揮斬，試圖砍掉目標人物。

假如屋子裡有許多人，他就會砍掉許多人

假如屋子有少許人，他就會砍掉少許人

假如屋子沒人，他什麼也砍不到，只有自己在疲勞而已。

同樣地，世間就像一個殺手那樣；它無差別地以無常來亂刀揮斬一切

假如我們有許多執著，世間就會為我們帶來許多痛苦

假如我們有少許執著，世間就會為我們帶來少許痛苦

假如我們沒有執著，世間便不能為我們帶來任何痛苦，只有它自己在疲勞而已...

Just like a killer walking into a large room filled with thick smoke, where everything is completely invisible . 

He sends someone to guard the entrance and then starts slashing wildly inside the room, trying to eliminate his target.

If there are many people in the room, he will hurt many people.
If there are a few people in the room, he will hurt a few people.
If the room is empty, he can't harm anyone; he will only exhaust himself.

Similarly, the world is like that killer; it indiscriminately slashes everything with impermanence.

If we have many attachments, the world will bring us much suffering.
If we have a few attachments, the world will bring us a little suffering.
If we have no attachments, the world cannot bring us any suffering; it will only tire itself out...

In Hong Kong, during the Lunar New Year, there is a tradition where people like to go to the Wishing Tree in Lam Tsuen, Tai Po, to toss 'wishing plates' for blessings. As they toss, every so often, the tree will collapse under the weight.

Similarly, we all have endless desires—wanting more and more. One day, the heart will become overwhelmed and may succumb to mental illness.

As Luang Por Ganha once said, 'If we start wanting too much, then be prepared for mental illness.'

香港人在農曆新年期間，有一個傳統，

就是喜歡去到位於大埔林村的許願樹那裡拋寶碟祈福

拋著拋著，每隔一會兒大樹就會倒塌～

同樣地，人類有著無止境的慾望

想要想要，慾望越來越多

終有一天心就會不勝負荷，患上精神疾病了

就如隆波間夏所說：‘假如我們開始想要太多，那麼準備有精神病吧’

小時候，我們緊緊地依偎著父母

出外時要拖著父母

不斷要纏著父母

假如父母不知去了哪裡，就會痛苦害怕，痛苦流淚

當年紀漸增，我們不再纏著父母了，我們獨立自主了

父母便欣慰地說：‘啊，他長大了！’

同樣地，一般凡夫的心緊緊地執著一切

內心不斷被名譽、 地位、 權力、 異性、 親戚朋友、 美貌等等所纏繞

假如它們不見了，或者好像要失去了，就會痛苦害怕，痛苦流淚

如果一個人學習佛法，心靈素質漸增，我們便能逐漸放下一切。

心此時獨立剛強

如果大師父看見我們，可能會欣慰地說：‘啊，他長大了！’

When we were children, we clung tightly to our parents. When going out, we would drag them along and constantly need to be with them. If our parents were out of sight, we would feel pain and fear, crying out loud

As we grew older, we became independent and no longer clung to our parents. They would happily say, "Ah, he has grown up!"

Similarly, the hearts of ordinary people are tightly attached to everything. 

They are continuously entangled by reputation, status, power, opposite sex, relatives and friends, beauty, and so on. 

If these things disappear or seem to be lost, they feel pain and fear, leading to tears.

If a person studies the Dharma and gradually enhances their spiritual qualities, they can slowly let go of everything. 

At this point, their hearts become independent and strong. If a great master sees this, they might say with satisfaction, "Ah, he has grown up!"

未雨綢繆是好的

因為世間的本質就是無常的、 無法掌控的、 不能維持的

這裡的未雨綢繆，是指心的未雨綢繆

我們看看我們現在擁有的一切：財富、名譽、地位、權力、美貌、親戚朋友、伴侶、家人、智力、能力

請認清他們全部都是無常的，所有這一切都可以在下一秒失去

可以是被人搶去，可以是因為發生突發意外

害怕嗎？越是害怕就越要去思維。不然一會兒真的發生了，我們會更害怕和不知所措

心有戚戚然嗎？悲傷嗎？越是悲痛就越要去思維。不然一會兒真的發生了，我們會更傷心

準備好失去一切吧，準備好在下一秒終身癱瘓吧，準備好在下一秒死去吧

也準備好我們的計劃落空吧

如果誰能接受一切，他將無所畏懼，痛苦也不能滲進他的心

沒錢到要睡街，可以

要做乞丐，都可以

什麼都可以

噢～無所執著的心是最為強大的

Preparation is Good

Because the nature of the world is impermanent, uncontrollable, and unsustainable.

Here, "preparation" refers to the preparation of the mind. 

Let’s examine everything we currently possess: wealth, reputation, status, power, beauty, relatives, friends, partners, family, intelligence, and abilities.

Please recognize that all of these are impermanent; everything can be lost in the next moment. It could be taken away by someone or due to unexpected events.